Short post, long relationship. Dated for 7 years and this was all LDR (1 hour apart) took turns every weekend. About 5 years in I made a mistake and never told her, instead did whatever she said and let things I usually wouldn’t slide. Over the next two years or so we drifted and I think it was because I let her get away with texting and just trusted. We loved each other very much but my insecurities got the best of me a lot. She ended up kissing someone and hiding it prior to breakup. Breakup happened before she left on two week trip, she bawled. She said I love you up until the last month. 6 months before this she said she needed a break and I said that’s ok but it will be a break up. She couldn’t do it. Since break up, I figured out kiss and was mad but I also fessed up about my error. Felt like a weight off my shoulders, she said the breakup was a long time coming which I find hard to believe considering it was on the plate earlier. She said she wants no bad blood and that it turned into friendship (I stopped taking care of myself) I have since went NC and plan on working on myself and getting over the old relationship. I do want her back now that I can be me again and not a doormat. Do I go NC for the next 3 months and attempt then? I am certain she is filling the void with texting guys. As I said I will continue to work on me but not sure when I should reach back out and if I can get her back all things considering. I can’t just happen to run into her by accident. But I would like to show her the new me at some point, the one she once loved so much. Advice?
Why didn’t you ever propose marriage?
Sounds like the relationship was troubled for the last 2 years (maybe longer) and there was infidelity on both sides. So you both built up resentments and hurt feelings. This will be difficult to overcome. But if you both have the desire to make amends and change the dynamics of a possible future relationship, the result would be a much better happier relationship.
Yes, go no contact for 3 months.