Hello,
I’m on day one of NC. I wish I had found this site before. I made so many mistakes. I was dating my ex for a year before we had an argument about my getting to meet her family for the holidays and then I threw in some suspicious activity I’ve noticed lately so I said maybe we’re not meant to be and said we’re done (yeah yeah I was moving too fast and I’m dumb). We broke up just before thanksgiving and everyday I was text begging her back, sent her flowers and showed up at her job to try to talk about it. She did ask me for space right after we broke up but I’m an idiot and overreacted. Yesterday she texted I’m a great guy but she can’t continue the relationship and offered me friendship.
After reflecting back on the whole situation I realized it was my own I insecurities from past cheaters that drove the whole argument. I’m working hard to overcome my issues and I do trust my ex completely.
What do you think? Did I already screw it up that badly?
@Jonathan16 - I’m sorry to hear your story and know you must be hurting. I’m not clear on what you meant by having an argument about meeting her family for the holidays? You say you brought up suspicious activity, but then you say you trust her completely. Many relationships (in fact most) end because of too many arguments! You didn’t really state the reasons you chose to break up with her, but it seems highly unlikely that after being together for a year, that it was due to one or two incidents. There must be some good things she likes about you because she offered friendship and said you’re a great guy. But she just doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you. You said some hurtful things and maybe she’s speaking out of hurt or she really means what she said.
No you didn’t screw up too badly, you begged because you wanted her back and I’m sure she understands that. Go no contact for a month or maybe more to honor her request for space. Glad you’re working to overcome your issues! It’s important to make changes in order to allow a future relationship happier, either with her or someone else. Wishing you good luck:)