This is what she replied…
“I think drunk. No I didn’t get spam calls I will do thanks”
It seems so short compared to my message lol but as usual my brain wont stop over analysing things.
she might’ve thought you were trying to repeatedly call her as it seems you do tend to ask if its okay to “call” a lot or it’s just me. But try not to panic so much and like i said before, probably best to let her call you and if you do miss a call, maybe just message first and be like “i missed you call, whats up?” and go from there. Or you can simply call her back if you missed a called, i see no issue in returning a call. But like what fishinginthesky said, you gotta be patient. as shitty as it is to take things slowly, youre doing this for her cause you care and love for her.
as for myself it has been 7 days of NC now. but we have been broken up for 2 months next week. Yes this was our very first break up. your postive words made bme very happy haha but i dont wanna get my hopes up as i want to expect the unexpected and be prepared for worse case scenarios. But thanks, hopefully she will contact me before i do but she might not cause like i said before, she said she was “seeing” someone so he might be keeping her occupied. But i will save my letter as a last resort. My ex did contact me before a week or so after the break up, we had a small arguement but i did NC and she texted saying she was sorry and missed me and missed being love, etc. but lets see what happens this time. have a good night ironblood, hopefully tomorrow is a better day for you 
Stay stronf during nc she will contact you again pingpong and thank you. But sadly it hasn’t. Feel like things have gotten worse. And i feel shit.
So today she deleted me from snapchat and i was confused cause you know… 2 days ago she said she missed me. So i texted her saying
“I’m confused can we talk”
She replies “whats up”
So i said "do you mind if i ring it’s easier to explain "
She said “I’d rather you whatsapped”
So i said “it’s just a quick call”
So i rang and she answered and i went on to explain about how my messages were not sending to her and that i had missed calls from her and every time i returned the calls she wouldn’t answer and i also brought up why she deleted me on snapchat… i asked her if she was annoyed at me about soemthing if i didnt see her messages or whatever. So she explains she called once the other day and rhat was it and she was only getting a few of my messages and calls. So we sort that out and we end up talking although i felt i was making more of an effort and near to the end i also asked what she was doing for her birthday and she said nothing yet so i brought her dress up that she posted on snapchat yesterday and was like " i thought that was your birthday dress " and she told me she has plans but they’re not set in stone yet.
So anyway we talk abut and then she said she needed to go as her dad was calling her so i was like “ok thats fine but before i go ive felt like you don’t want to talk latley or is it that I’m not recieving your messages … do you still want to talk or”
she replied “no its not that it’s just i do want to talk to know how you are getting on with uni and everything but at the same time i dont want to give you the wrong impression so i backed off for a couple days”
so i replied “no i understand i dont want to give the wrong impression either” then we ended the call.
At this time I’m feeling shit like there isn’t any hope. It feels like she doesn’t want me at all.
So eventually i think of something to say that hopefully will reverse what she said. (Ill get into it below just keep reading lol hang in there)
So i call her 3 times and each time no answer. So again I’m thinking it’s whatsapp so she replies
“whats up? All missed calls? Whats up”
So i replied “you not want to phone”
She replied " I didn’t get chance to answer I was downstairs what’s up"
So i phoned again and she finally answers so I pretty much say to her -
“I’ve been thinking about what you aaid before we hung up about the wrong impression and you can’t really think like that cause you made it clear what you wanted before we broke up and I respect and accept that decision I just wanted to know if i gave you the wrong impression cause if i have then I’m sorry cause i didn’t mean to.”
She replied something like “good and you haven’t given the wrong impression”
So i was like "then why did you say that? You must have thought i was trying something and if you did i didnt mean for the wrong impression "
So she replied “what do you mean? no you didn’t give me the wrong impression”
So i was like "ok thats cool i hope i didn’t "
I heard a laughing noise from her tv so i asked “what you doing”
She replies “nothing”
So i reply “well I’ll let you go then I’m just getting ready to go out”
And we’ve left it at that today. What do you guys think? Should I go nc? And see if she replies. Or is she showing signs she’s fully done. I just don’t know what to do. I feel like we were making progress now i feel like we took 2 steps back and I’m back on square one.
I unfollowed her on instagram cause she deleted me on snapchat. But I’ve got her added on whatsapp.
I just don’t know anymore. I miss her so much. The good times. Not the times where she’s a cold hearted bitch. I know our relationship wasn’t amazing a 100% of the time. I know we made mistakes. I do generally think we can have a fresh new start but it seems like she’s moving on and using me as an emotional crutch. :(. I don’t know…
Hi Ironblood: this will be my last post for now. And I will tell it to you straight, you can’t expect things to improve already because there was no time for healing. How can you heal if you are constantly talking to each other trying to bring back what you had in the past. THAT IS GONE. I was really happy that you were making progress. To me, progress was the little talks here and there and not expecting anything in return. But you always wanted more and I told you a million times that she is not willing to give you more than you want. When she said “i hope i did not give you the wrong impression” = We are not getting back together (maybe not yet, maybe never).
Also, you keep wanting to call when she said she doesn’t! Why can’t you respect that?
Believe me, I do understand. We always don’t want to give up on someone we love so much. It’s not giving up but letting go! You do not know how much I want to get back with my ex, but there is only so much I can do. We can’t force people to return the feelings if they don’t want to.
If you care for her, for yourself: let it go. You did enough already, and even you said that you are doing all the effort. Maybe if you do no contact and then she contacts you and says again: “I miss you.” I think finally be forward to her and say “I know we are broken up, but honeslty I still have strong feelings for you and want us to work this out, but if you really don’t want this anymore, I will respect you and let you be.” All she can say is yes or no. If she says no, then finally just stop it. There is only so much you can do.
I have a feeling this will fall on deaf ears again. But I said my piece. Take care, my friend.
I fucked up. No you are right i didnt listen i kept pushing for more too soon. I was stupid. But the reason behind the phone calls was cause she phoned me and i missed her calling me. And my text messages were not going through. So that is why i called otherwise she would think i completely ignored her.
She’s giving me mixed signals.she already told me she misses me twice and but slowly is backing off away from me again. Not sure how i am suppose to show or tell her or even do anything to increase my chances when she deleted me on all social media pretty much.
I guess I will to no contact again. See what happens. I feel incredibly guilty cause i do love this girl so much and letting her go will take an incredibly long time. But if i have no choice here then what more am i suppose to do. I’m not giving up until my nc is over. Thanks for all the help. I’ve sorted the technical difficulties so i wont be phoning her again when she doesn’t want to. I do listen. I’m sorry. I’m sorry. I’m sorry i couldn’t take control of my actions i honestly wish i was as strong as you mrswb . I feel pathetic yet again.
Hey MrsWB,
How are you doing? I hope you are feeling better somehow. Yesterday I had my real low day since I’ve decided to let my ex go. All started from one of my colleagues announcing that he’s got engaged, he’s been together with his girlfriend approximately the same time I’ve been with my ex, so that made me crumble inside again but this morning I am regaining my stranght by thinking positive and clenching my hopes tightly in my fist without letting them slip away.
Are you going to stop posting for good? It’s a pity because I would like to know how you are doing and if you need any support, I am still faithful that your ex might come back, hell I wanna see someone among us actually reunite with his/her ex.
It’s funny because by reading around, I think this forum is turning more into something closer to “Let you ex go permanently” than “get your ex back permanently” lol.
Regarding you ironblood, I throw my arms up and surrender lol. You keep running in circle and as MrsWB said, it just falls on deaf ears. Just do whatever you feel up to at this point man, it’s your relationship, it’s your life.
Fishing: i do not want to stop posting and i actually want to stick Around to see if anyone had progress. But i just have this nagging feeling my ex is already seeing someone because it’s 8 weeks. Also, i know this is bad that i started snooping on his FB, and there is this girl who is starting to like his posts. She has never liked any of his posts before. We have never been FB official. It was never our thing. I wanted to reach a milestone before that ever happens. Like engaged or married. Fishing, it is destroying me inside. People always say to focus on myself, go out, do things. That is always easy for everyone to say. I lost a big part of me. But it seems like the girl who is liking his posts is more his kind of girl. Voloptuous. I’m super skinny and lanky.
Ironblood: i am so sorry. That is all i can say. We are all hurting. 
what mrswb said is right, we all want our ex’s back in our lives but rmr that it is their life too. We cant just focus on only us and please our needs. You dont have to go NC, since you two are slowly talking but let her message you and just chat as if you were just friends. It is hard to talk to someone you love and not show the same emotions as before but it is something that needs to be done for now, until your ex begins to move forawrd a bit.
as for myself i have began letting go, but not because i am giving up on her ,but this is something for the both of us. I have learned SO MUCH since the break up and i have become and change into a different person from than what i was 2 months ago. All my rage is gone. I use to hold one specific rage because she broke it off a week before my birthday and man it was the WORST birthday ever. But now… i don’t care, the greatest gift from this was that I have gotten to learn a lot about others and that we all are going through something and when we help each other on this board it eases the pain a bit. I have also been shopping a lot… as i use to hate shopping with my ex but now…heck im buying new outfits, shoes, training gear…lol. For some strange reason shopping makes me feel better lol.
Fishingthesky, I know how you feel, as i see some of my friends on FB getting engaged and i wish i had the oppotunnity to do it this year but it’s a shame. The worse thing is they have been in a relationship a lot less than i have and already popped the question. Has your ex read your letter any more times so far? last you said was 7? I have hopes that she will reply back but i dont know when but maybe it is taking time for her to gather her feelings. When you wrote a goodbye letter the first time you guys broke up, and you guys got back, how long was it before she replied back? do you rmr? AHah yes, this board is starting to change into something else…
MrsWB, it would be nice if one of us gets some progress as i do check daily in hopes someone gets some good news but pretty much it’s more ironblood making progress… and i do enjoy his daily summary haha. Well you pretty much had no choice but to snoop as i know you were left with not much answers at all. Did him and this girl just become friends recently ? is he liking any of her posts? it is so true…many people tell you things, and i admit i have told people the same thing “focus on yourself”,“get over it”, etc but it is so difficult once you go through this pain and nobody will ever know how its like until it happens to them. Is that the type of women he told you he likes? well you and him had a relationship so i am sure he loves your type. I am sure if he wasnt interested in you, you two would have never started anything. But i still have hope that he will contact you. Maybe you should go shopping lol splurge a little 
go to a spa and have a chance to relax your mind.
Hey Pingpong,
First time my ex broke up with me, she told me she wanted to have new experiences as she’s just started university, I did not send any letter or anything afterwards. Approximately a month later I received a text from her, telling me she was sorry she left and she wanted to have me back. Second time she dumped me, I did send a sort of goodbye letter on our anniversary’s date, not that explicit like this last one, and she answered right away (45 days after the breakup).
Now it’s almost two months since the breakup and no contact from her. I think she’s still pretty mad and it will take a lot of time before (if) she can remember again good memories of us.
Hey guys i know i havnt been on for a while. It’s a weird time for me at the moment. We haven’t spoke since that day I phoned. So I’ve stuck to nc. I feel like she’s moved on and now everyday I get closer to fully letting her go.
I have a date on friday with another girl. Although I still love my ex she obviously doesn’t feel the same way and you are right we can’t force people to love us. Maybe i wasn’t good enough. Who knows. All i know is she is going out for her birthday with people (possibly guys) and I’m free to explore the world without her. A part of me does feel guilty but i can’t just sit around anymore.
I don’t know if this makes me a bad person but you guys do know I have tried. Multiple times… and still end up heart broken. So at the moment I’m trying my best to let her go and move on. Don’t let my actions discourage you though! I think you guys still have a chance.
It is harder for me to let go than to keep fighting. So don’t take this as I’m quiting. She quite clearly doesn’t want me so I can’t wait around.
Who knows though. She may contact me or may not. I’m not sure what i would do as i don’t want to go through this again although she was amazing and i still have the same feelings as i did when we first fell in love.
I may not be in here ever/or in a while. All i know is i need a break from all this and try and have some fun to balance all the sadness I’ve been having this year and from the drainage of the old relationship.
I wish you all luck. I hope you all succeed in what you want to achieve in life… whether it being getting your ex back a new job anything. I want to thank every single one of you that has gave even the slightest advice. It meant alot to me and although sometimes it seemed i didnt use or take it in. I did and it meant the world to me to think complete strangers helped me. Thank you.
I don’t know if I’ll be back with positive or negative news or whether I’ll move on. But as for now good bye my friends.
drops mic
I’ve really tried to move on! Honestly i have and its once again hit me again.
Ive been on dates went out at night spoke to girls and still i have nothing towards anygirl but her. Infact everytime i speak to a new girl it reminds me of her to intensely that i have to walk away.
It’s been abit complicated since i last spoke to her cause my stupid so called “friend” messaged her making me look pathetic along the lines of “take him back hes miserable without you you’re his one” so i had to message her her birthdsy explaining to ignore him cause he’s making it up to stir shit i then proceeded to wish her happy birthday and told her she didnt have to reply. She told me she did ignore him and wasnt sure why he wanted to involve her. She then said thank you and told me she was off sick in bed but i have ignored it for like 4 days.
I honestly don’t know what to do anymore. I was moving on ! But now it hit me again and i want her so badly. I have no idea if this is fixable though. It’s been a whole month and a couple days. I do want her back and its showing so badly now
Hello ironblood, I am really sorry for you and I know exactly how you feel I guess.
It’s like being trapped, you know you have to move on but you just can’t, because everything reminds you of her and you hope that she’ll come back ; you know that you have to improve yourself and be a better person, but you just miss her.
And it’s alright, just don’t give up, you’re worth it. Everythings gonna be fine, I’m here if you need to talk.
Thank you so much improvinglemon i just dont know what to do anymore. I still want her back so badly. I’ve improved my self exponentially. From being a lonley deppressed idiot to some one who has his life together, i have friends, new fashion style, i work out every day at the gym again, i took up kickboxxing to outlet my frustratuons that u would occasionally take out on my ex, im at university, ive been on dates and not to be rude they were really hot girls and i still can’t get her out my mind. Its been almost 5-6weeks. I thought i got over her at some point. It’s killing me cause i want her back. Im thinking logically more than emotionally at rhe moment which i couldn’t do before. I just don’t know how to build a friendship atleast or communication.