@xicana17 Thank you:) We are very happy…
Yes, patience is important, but pressuring or nagging a guy will only serve to drive him further away. Most guys hate drama and want a fun, happy, and calm relationship with a woman. You two were together for a long time and have a lot of history. With time, the bad memories will fade to the background and allow the more pleasant memories to emerge…
Stay strong and try to have a positive outlook:)
@patricia12 I am so so so happy to hear your story had a happy ending. You seem like such a genuine and helpful person and its so great to see people like that get what they deserve.
seeing your progression through this post is very inspiring to me. It seems like you did a great job of managing the pain of the breakup and giving yourself the self-compassion to move forward with improving yourself and your life.
I think you are dead on with your advice about not nagging to get back together and I am pleased to see your strategy pay off. When did you start feeling a spark again? Like was it slow over time with seeing him because you both weren’t trying so hard, like did you have to go through quite a bit of uncertainty and awkwardness about your feelings again? I also see your steps of discussing your mistakes to be huge in the process of forgiveness and moving on and your held together, calm approach to working on that seems like it really worked out. Any more info on how things started to fall back in place is helpful, as I am really happy to hear it and its very inspiring for my own quest to work on myself and hopefully fix things with my ex. Wishing you the best!
@dwayneswampson After we worked through some of our issues by email and phone calls, we met for lunch. We both felt a little nervous as we hadn’t seen each other in about 4 months. After this, we continued to discuss a few more things, including mutual forgiveness. Then he invited me to miniature golf and we both felt a spark of attraction. So I would say it was a rather slow process and yes, calm discussions proved to be helpful in understanding each other better which led to improved interactions … I would also say we both had the desire to reunite if we could come to an understanding about how to improve communications and also gain insight as our needs and desires.
Thank you for your good wishes:)
@dwayneswampson I want to add that neither of us dated others during our time apart as we never lost our love and respect for each other.
It never would have worked out if only one of us wanted to try to reconcile.
@patricia12 Very happy to hear about the update to your story. Wishing you both a very happy and long life together with the best of memories!
“Sometimes not getting what you want is a wonderful stroke of luck!” Dalai Lama.
Boy! This is so true! I’ve spent 3 years crying over my ex, thinking he was my perfect match. Guess what: he was not!
After crying my heart out, I’ve started re-considering the entire question and loving MYSELF first. I started loving the little child in me. And that changed my whole world. When I least expected, I met the most wonderful soul on earth, the kindest, sweetest, most caring man in the world! We laugh a lot and enjoy any and every single moment together. We’re meant to be together for the rest of our life! I’m so happy I couldn’t get my ex back! So don’t focus too much on what you’ve lost, focus on loving yourself and everyone around you! The rest will come easy! Lots of blessings everyone!