So, my question is, can I still post things on Facebook or post pictures on Instagram or snap chat that isn’t directed towards my ex. Or do I need to go cold turkey and just post nothing for the duration of the no contact rule? Do I want her to see I am doing great without her with me??
Thoughts?
If they’re posts and photos that have nothing to do with your ex, that’s totally fine. If they have her in it or relate to her somehow, that’s a no go
@sansa - Thank you. I was unsure so I stop posting all together for the past 4 days.
No problem. Anything that is positive is good. Nothing sad, or anything like that. I would post about my studies or if I was at the movies. Stuff that made me look as busy as ever.
@sansa - I did notice that she unfriend me on Facebook this morning. But every other social media I have her still. I’m not on Facebook a lot either. Any idea what that means? We did have a lot of photos of us on Facebook too.
It’s hard to say, because I’m one who never deletes people on facebook. I only unfollow them (which is what I did with my girlfriend).
Facebook dynamics are so hard to understand. Try not to worry about it too much. Maybe she’s only doing it so she doesn’t go on your page as much.
@Sansa - I believe I am over thinking it. It was bound to happen at some point. I am still following her, she just took me off completely, probably to not see what I am doing, since it does say when I am on there. Plus, It shows me who looks at my profile and she has been on there a lot after the break up. Those third party apps. I am giving her the space she needs. I just hope she does reach out to me at some point.
The only issue I am concerned on, is what happens if she expect me to reach out to her? She did tell me that the texting she will leave up to me, since she doesn’t want to re-open the wound too early. Over thinking that too?
Yeah, I think she’s just trying to pull herself away from your page. i wouldn’t read much further into it than that
You can text her when you feel comfortable - the ball is in your court. I wouldn’t text too soon, because that may come off as clingy/needy, however.
@Sansa - I won’t read to much into for now. However, I do see pictures of us on her profile still. I am seeing a couples therapist to help get over this and concentrate on myself and understand what I need to do. She doesn’t know this and I won’t tell her.
She hinted the break up on 1/7/17 but didn’t officially break up until 1/15/17. A lot of torture between those days. I started the NO contact on 1/20/17. Since she did text me and I responded (a day later). I will try and give it all 30 days of no contact. but I feel, it will end shortly (around 3rd-4th week) Depends on how I am doing.
Thank you for the Advice Sansa