My ex and I were together for a year and a half. I broke up due to a small argument that escalated due to both of us being tired of this. We would both not give each other the way during arguments, communicated poorly and had lots of misunderstanding linger for too long. I broke up with her on the 13th of feb, and on valentines I acted like a child and ignored her, I regret it deeply. Few days later I met up with her to try to resolve our issue but I told her that I’m still thinking of whether do I want to get back or not. This got her angry as she thought I was here to apologise and felt that I played her, I manage to talk things out but things were still bitter.
Few days later we went out on a date but during the date she said that she had no intention of getting back which made me mad and we argued and I called her names. After that horrible night and argument, I stopped contacting her but she texted me back 2 days later to talk about random stuff, we argued days later as she said I was insecure when she posted stuff on her instagram so I questioned her about it. I also tried not contacting her but she got angry about it and said that she misses me and wants to remain as friends. I did not want to but I thought I could get her back this way.
It has been 2 months since and during these 2 months I continued doing everything that this article told me not to do, I stayed in contact with her thinking I had a chance if I just apologized and said I would change. We argued a few times during this period because I kept saying I would put in the effort and change but I did not, I kept saying goodbye but came back because I couldn’t move on. Worst thing was I found out she was talking to someone in the beginning of march, I got super panicky and desperate that I tried asking her about it but got shut down. I then said goodbye again to her and the next day I did my last ditch attempt to get back together. I sent her a text addressing all the wrongs that I did and realized my mistakes and that I have change and will do everything to treat her better.
This obviously did not work but we manage to keep talking for a month from 24th of march to 17th of april. We met a few times from the break up till then but my actions were the same, I looked at her with sad eyes showing that I was sad and I missed her so much. On the 17th of march, we got into a small fight because I showed annoyance when she got annoyed at me, which was the deciding factor as I’ve told her I have improved on being able to talk things out or calm her down when she’s angry. I texted her the next 2 days but did not get a response and when she replied she told me she is done with me for real and asked me to move on and that she will never get back into this toxic relationship(compared to the start where she said now is not the time but maybe if we give each other space we could be together again). I also found out that the overseas guy she was talking to had progressed to a LDR in during this period from 10 apr to 17 apr when I showed her I did not change and acted as if she was still my gf expecting a reply and pushed for her to reply.
Her attention towards me slowly died down as she got closer to the other guy. Everytime we argued I felt that I pushed her more to confide with the other guy and now she totally cut me off and told me to move on. (Yes, I talked to her about being in a LDR the other guy and kinda freaked out, she got angry and said its none of my business). Today is day 1 of me trying to move on, what should I do? Am I in a bad spot to start no contact? I’m pretty sure this is a rebound as it’s a LDR and our country is pretty small. But these 2 months I tried several times to get her back, so if I do no contact would I still stand a chance? I discovered this article very late and I deeply reflected on my actions and how I would improve on myself during no contact.
Important things to note:
We broke up on 13th feb.
She said she missed me and still has feelings on 6th of march.
Around this period she began talking with new guy
From here till now her attention on me reduced gradually to zero and it’s now all on her new LDR boyfriend.
Day 2 of no contact for me and I do not feel as sad, obsessed and insecure already.
Do I still stand a chance if I do no contact properly? Has she already moved on because she is sick of the way I acted and the time period that we broken up from. I genuinely want to improve not for her but for the better and my feelings for her are very strong.