broke NC and did something really stupid. need help :(

yeah just wait till your done with no contact. hopefully he comes to realization sometime soon. ugh men, lol stay strong, your doing really well. :slight_smile:

Yeah thanks… :slight_smile: I ll end NC only when I ll feel he is taking a step towards reconciliation in a good way.
Till then I ll try to focus on my life rather than poking nose in his life.lol

yes thats a good way to look at it. I hope its soon for you. if he said he loves you then your already ahead of the game.:slight_smile: hopefully you can get him back soon.:slight_smile: stay strong you got this. :slight_smile:

I hope so… fingers crossed :slight_smile:

yes you do. stay strong keep doing you and be patient. :slight_smile: I wish my husband would. :frowning: keep us posted. :slight_smile:

I think I should have replied to his texts. He is angry and in our fights I always used to cut off from him and he used to chase me everytime. Its been 40 days now( longest of all). I think this time he is not going to chase me.
Moreover, I got an email from kevin and it says you should not completely ignore your ex during NC or he ll think of you as a jerk.
I dont know what should I do. He didn’t try contacting me after that :frowning:

How about reply him after 1 or two days?40days are enough I think…if he still angry then reply him"I need some space and time"?perhaps ?

then think good about your whole situation and then if you think the right thing to do is to contact him then do so. if you want send him a test text. your doing gret. keep it up. :slight_smile: do you mind giving me your opinion on my latest post. thanks :slight_smile:

@vanessa Its my 2nd round of NC and we talked 10 days ago.
M really confused should I text him or not.

@aamls
Should I really text him? I mean last time we talked was great he told me he loves me but didnt do anything about it. I need a serious apology from his side and he is acting like nothing happened.

But on the other hand, I always make him chase me. And he always did but not this time. He has been chasing me from june whenever we fought he was the one to come and beg me for another chance.
Idk I m so confused!!

Girl stay strong! I know it seems hard but I think your concentrating too hard on winning him back and you’re still in a similar position to when you both first split. Understand that attractiveness comes from independence and knowing what you really want for yourself outside of your partner. X

@Max thanks for your honest reply. I totally get it. But I think there’s a problem. We never even said goodbyes properly. He is giving me mixed reactions.
I feel like there is a communication gap between us. Infact I dont even know what he wants now. Why isn’t he talking to me. I literally dont know anything.
I feel like I should talk to him once if he tries to contact me and try to find out what he wants.

I’m still fairly Young (21) and I’m a little immature so this may be the wrong advice but I think it’s obvious yous want to be together so I would be jumping at the chance. I would suggest talking to him and not continuing NC but I can’t even help myself so don’t take my word xx

@darkheart I am just 19.lol. :smiley:
I dont know what to do. I want to talk to him but dont want to break NC. I want him to try more. I am confused. I think I ll wait to see his next move

I really don’t want to give the wrong advice but if he is getting angry at you not replying then I think it’s time to break NC because eventually he will give up trying…I mean wouldn’t you?x

Hey guys… guess what?
I HAVE HIM BACK <3
Its not like everything just got like it was used to. There are still some problems that I need to fix. Like I need to make him promise that he ll never do something like that again. But what really matters is that we are together again.
We didn’t sleep last night at all.
I was just so depressed that I end up calling him. He was drunk and not well at all. I got worried so talked to him more.
I hope everything else will get better. He will become a nice trustworthy person again. And yes I ll still keep you all updated and yes, thanks for being with me. :slight_smile:

WOW congratulations!!!
he can keep trying to contact u because he never stops loving u.
Lucky girl !
Keep us updated !X

omg im so happy for you. :smiley: im glad you were able to get him back. now just work slowly but surely on the problems you guys have. :slight_smile: and Vanessa9 is right, lucky girl. :slight_smile:

divjun would you like to share your story with us on how you got him back? im so happy for you. :slight_smile:

Yes please share you story :slight_smile: I am so happy for you the rest of us now have hope too :slight_smile: fingers crossed

Thanks all :slight_smile:

So here it goes.
My bf and I broke up 40 days ago. He was lying to me and hiding things.

Little recap :
Prior to our break up, we were having continuous fights for 3 months. Everytime he used to chase me. I thought this time he ll realise his mistake and come back to me. But he didnt. I started NC on the of breaking up. He didn’t tell anyone about our break up. He didnt talk about me. He got angry when anyone was talking to him about me. He waa damn frustrated due to our fights. He asked about me to my friend on day 18 of NC.
He tried many times to contact me and yes we did talk on our 3 year anniversary and that was day 26 of NC.
We told each other that we love them. We again fought on the same day because he was not even feeling guilty about it. I started second round of NC.
He texted me once on day 9 but I didnt reply. I was missing him so much that I replied to his text the other night. He didn’t responded so I called him. He picked my call but he was not well. He couldn’t even speak properly. He was drunk. He told me he ll call me after sometime. I got worried for him. Then my friend called me who is also in contact with my bf. She told me that I should talk to him as he is not feeling well at all amd only I can handle him now.
I called him again. He didnt pick.
He told my friend that he is scared of me as I will scold him for getting drunk that much. He told her I only have feeling for one person(thats me) and she is so mean to me. Etc etc. He told her he is a bastard but has feelings for me only.
I talked to him on an app. He told me that only 6%battery is left in his phone. He showed me a screenshot so that I wont doubt him. I saw he saved my number by “WIFEY”
I didnt say anything about it. I asked him if he was feeling okay now.
He told me that he had high fever from past 3-4 days and thats why he wanted to talk to me because he feels much better when I am with him.
We fought again on old topics. He was least interested in talking about them.
Long story short. I asked him if he would repeat that in future.
He said I ll try not to but I cant promise. But I promise whatever happens we will stay together.
Firstly I was shocked that he is not promising me but then I realised atleast he is not making a fake promise.

So I agreed and we got back together. We both didn’t sleep last night and talked for 7 hours.

I am planning to be as sweet as possible so that we dont get into any fights and after a week or so I ll talk about what happened between us and I ll make sure he wont do that again.
I hope it works. :slight_smile: