Hi everyone,
We broke up today. Even when we still love each other very much but there are so much pain and stress in our relationship. So we decided to end it. It’s like the only right thing to do now.
He’s a troubled one. Recently he’s coped with many failures in his career: He graduated with excellence from one of the best universities in our country (Vietnam), he has worked very hard but things didn’t go right. He jumps from one job to another and can’t settle down. But believe me, he’s really talented.
He has some problems with his health, too. He has been suffering from slipped disc for 1 year. 2 weeks ago, his motorcycle was stolen and he had leg strain (while chasing the thieves). His mood was very down, he drank a lot and many times I had to bring him home in the middle of the night ( he was so drunk).
I’m an emotional one. I always felt insecure in our relationship because there were so many girls who falls for him (he’s quite good looking). Before me, he had a 4-year-relationship with a classmate at university. Sometimes they talk and even when he tries to explain things and comfort me but i’m still jealous.
There’re so many problems between us. And he says he can’t bear watching me suffer day by day. He says he’s nothing good for me. He has a guilty feeling that all he can do is to hurt me. And he tells me that he feels indebted to me than love me. We stopped talking for about one week to think about our relationship and he still decided to go away.
When we had a breakup talk this morning, we both cried and wished each other luck. We both lost weight in one week. It’s just so heart-breaking.
We have many commons. We’re both warm and quite sensitive. We had been together for 2 years. He supported me a lot when I was in hard time. We were always for each other. We did a lot of things for each other.
His family, his friends and his colleagues like me and they’re in favor of our love. He’s 26 and I’m 25.
I’m quite confused now.
What should I do now? Is there any chance that we would find a way to get back together? I’m quite afraid that if we come back together too soon, we’ll break up again (This is the third time we break up in 2 years!). Is there anything I can do? I don’t want to lose him.
Yes, it’s very difficult… my ex and I (6yrs) still love each other as well. We have been split since January, we ran into each other a couple of weeks ago and she was crying in the parking lot telling me that she still loves me and that she’s lonely. Even though she feels this way and so do I, there’s more to it than just “Love”
If you have read everything on the site, then you know that right now you should do NC. This will help to get yourself together and he will as well, because you’re right… if you get back together too early, it will more than likely fail. Work on things that you’d like to for yourself so that when you do finally get back together, you are better equipped to carry out a healthy and more stable relationship…
Good luck…
Thanks a lot, Jam. For giving me advice.
We had broken up twice before and I did NC and it worked for us.
We got back together after 1 month. But then, as you see, we broke up again.
We were on again and off again relationship for 2 years. My friends get tired and advise me to let it go.
I blocked all his contacts (phone, email, viber, skype, facebook), because i’m afraid he will miss me, and try to contact me. I’m afraid that history will happen again.
I don’t know what to do now. Maybe I should do NC for 6 months or more. We have to fix ourselves first. It’s the right thing to do.
But I really miss him. All day long, I just spend time reading all stuff about getting the ex back. I can’t focus on work and I lose my appetite.
Oh God, I love him and he loves me, why can’t we be together? Why does everything have to be so hard?
If it was easy, then there would be peace on earth and no sad songs…lol… You definitely have to take time to work on yourselves, if you don’t then it will continue to be the same cycle of fighting and breaking up. Look at this as a positive thing for your future, even if it currently hurts…
yes, but gosh, it’s tough! It’s difficult for me to remain a normal life, perform daily tasks now, not to say about improving myself.
and Jam, thanks for sharing. I read your topics. What’s about your situation now? Is everything better? I think it’s good to have somebody to talk to, so if you want to share, just do it.