Me and my girlfriend officially broke up 3 days ago. She told me she’s going to wish me a happy birthday (which is on the 19th). Should I give a short response like, “Thanks thumbs up” or not say ANYTHING AT ALL?
Wouldn’t that make her more angry??
Anyone?
It’s my birthday tomorrow and I can’t help but wonder if my ex will wish me a happy birthday…if he does, I plan on replying with a simple ‘Thanks!’ …with maybe the addition of a smiley face or a single kiss, depending on what he sends me…haha!
My break up was 4 months ago though, yours is super fresh so I don’t know if it would be best to ignore it…although saying thanks is only polite! Just don’t say anything else to try and start conversation
Thanks for the response Sunbeam!
I just don’t know, I wonder what Kevin would say about this…
What you just said is what I was thinking of doing.
See, I left a weak impression when we broke up a few days ago. I thought maybe I would make that right on my birthday by saying something like, “Thanks thumbs up” And if asks me how I been I’ll just say, “I’ve been great :)”. The she responds and i’ll just say, “Hey well thanks for the birthday wishes, take care now!”.
Idk that’s the way I played it out in my head lol
Can anyone else help me with this issue? New responses would be nice lol
Are you doing NC? I wouldn’t reply.
I would play out the scenario like you had it, unless you are in the NC period. If you are in the NC period you should say something short and sweet but if she responds do NOT respond back. I did this to my ex when he wished me a merry christmas. I replied back to his first text and ignored the second even though it was hard. After two days he liked my vine posts and then called me again two days later. Ignoring them is hard but works. I also need advice on my scenario I just posted if you could, thanks!
I am doing NC.
However wouldn’t it just be weird if I don’t respond AT ALL. And come out of nowhere a month later wanting to meet up? I feel like I should say something to o at least keep her wondering. But idk I don’t want to break, NC either.
I would just reply once when she sends you a happy birthday text. Once she says happy birthday, keep it short and simple, dont elaborate. If she sends you a text after that, DO NOT REPLY! This will keep her wondering. It will be very difficult to do NC but if you want her back, it has to be done.
MBrooke wouldn’t that make them mad??
I understand I have to do it but I don’t really understand the logic behind it.
It will not make them mad, more or less distressed. Wondering why you don’t act like you usually do. This in turn makes them start to wonder if they really have lost you. You can’t have the way you did in a relationship. In order for the other person to come back you need to act like you are happy for them to really start thinking about the situation. If they think they can have you back whenever they want, they can do whatever they want.
Oh OK I see
So how many times can I respond where it wouldn’t be considered braking NC?
Just respond once when she says happy birthday. Just keep it short and say thank you or something like that. If she responds to that do not reply.