Just been wondering if anyone on this site has had any success in getting their ex back?
I ask because I am only seeing people struggling and suffering?
I have asked the same question! but I don’t think people who have would be still using this site
Having success doesn’t have to mean getting your ex back, believe me. I have my story if you want to go read it, description is “my story, & how things changed”
Thanks aaron4, I can see the light at the end of the tunnel, onwards and upwards
I agree with aaron4 my ex contacted me after 30 days of NC. You can also read my stories if you want.
Thanks @loreley, I’ve been so fixtated on him that I was losing myself. I am on 4 day on NC again and trying very hard this time whilst looking after myself and getting out with friends.
Hang on sweetie! I know you feel horrible about that. NC is hard especially in first few weeks… But youll get used, believe me. During this time, yes try to go out - have fun, see new things, improve ourselves to be much netter, fix your drinking habit try to find new hobbies, expand social circles. Just try to distract yourself as much as you could. And oneday everything will just feel naturally then. You can decide later after 30-60 days of NC whether you want your ex back or not. At least try to focus on yourself. How to be happy. With or without him. It might sound nonsense now. But it will get better. I am now facing 9 weeks after broke up, I am the dumper. I decided to move on. I just want to tell you, that NC has worked although we’re not together anymore. Good luck!
Thank you @loreley, it’s been 4 months since we broke up but I have seen him in this time and been in constant contact, I’m moved in with a friend and starting a new job Monday.
I’ve been through so much with him especially when he got cancer and feel it’s all so much to throw away even though I was dumped.