We haven’t been talking for three weeks. I was doing fine. He told me he is a little bit nervous about seeing me at the event on Saturday. I said he has nothing to worry about since I don’t have any bad feelings, and that we won’t even notice each other since it is a birthday party. He said I’m probably right. I am working on getting him back, but yesterday he told a mutual friend he doesn’t miss me at all, and is happier now. He also said he is looking foward to meeting “the one”. What should I do? What is my game plan from here?
do you mind sharing went you guys broke up? and a little bit about your story. .
Sure. We have been texting since summer of 2013. We talked every single day and became best friends. After 10 months of texting and hanging out, I confessed my feelings. He said he feels the same and he asked me to be his girlfriend. That was in May 2014. Until January 2015 everything was perfect. My family mentioned something about moving to another country, so I gave him heads up if that does happen. He cried and I could really see how deeply he cared for me. Since then he became a little distant. But he was still loving and caring most of the time. He would make surprises for me, beg me not to go to sleep so we could talk, etc. We had a really special relationship, everyone would say that we are so lucky we found each other, and that we are perfect together. In the beginning of May, he did something really stupid (it’s religious thing, a we didn’t have sex because we are both practicing chastity), he has gone a little too far, and nothing happened, but he was deeply disturbed, and saying he doesn’t love me like I deserve to be loved. I said that we should break up then, but second later realized that it is not what I want, and something so stupid is not the reason to break up, and I took it back. Then he said he does want to break up, he got all dressed up, ready to leave the house, giving me the whole ‘I want us to be friends’ speech. But he didn’t exit my house, he said he can’t leave me, that he loves me too much. We agree to stay together and work on our relationship. Next month is complete heaven, he can’t stop saying how glad he is we didn’t break up. In the end of the June, things got rough again, I was in a really bad place, my family was falling apart and I knew he was about to go to work over summer on some island and that I wouldn’t see him for 2 months. I told him he was using me, but apologized immediately, but I could tell he was hurt since he wanted to break it off because of it in May. Few days later he went away. We haven’t seen each other in 2 months, in the beginning, I was pretty mean because I felt I was left behind. As I said, I was in a really bad place but he didn’t deserve it. I regret it all. After 2 months he comes back on Thursday but haven’t came to see me until Friday because I told him it is hurting me that he doesn’t care at all. He tells me how he was thinking we would see each other on the wedding that was on Saturday. But he realizes he made a mistake. He says how we are going to have a great time. On Saturday he completely ignored me. The wedding was awful, a he didn’t give me any attention. After that things were sort of working out, but I noticed he doesn’t say he loves me or misses me anymore, and rarely kisses me. I was getting really tired since the situation with my family was getting worse. I decide to break up. And while I was typing, he sends me a message that his grandfather died. In the next few weeks, I forgot all about how hurt I was, because I was trying to be loving and supportive. Two weeks after the funeral, he calls me and says we have to meet, and then he breaks it off. He says that he hasn’t loved me for the last 6 months and that he thinks I’m not the one. Now, after the break up I told him some pretty nasty things, a lost it completely. We have seen each other on a birthday party last week, we said hello to each other. He hasn’t looked at me once, the whole evening, and was avoiding being in the same room with me. Later he texts me how it was weird for him, and he is ready to meet up to have a ‘conversation’. We continued to talk, and he is pretty talkative but sometimes cold and short in replying. I have no idea, what my next move is… How should I approach him, because we were great together and really compatible, and he was someone I could plan my future with since we had similar interests. Thank you for your reply.
Anyone? I have an update. We continued texting for a few days. Most of the time I was the one who initiated contact. Sometimes he writes really long replies. I think he was flirting with me a bit (he is majoring in wine tech., so we talked about his classes), and I said: I bet I can beat you anytime at wine challenge haha
He replied: Uuuu I’m definitely up for that 
Later on, we texted some more… Everyone is telling me to give up, I mean, I can live without him, but I don’t want to haha
Few days ago, after him playing hot and cold again,
I asked him: are you sure you are okay with us talking because I have a feeling you are not really comfortable… as if you don’t want to communicate at all, which is fine and I get that
He replied: It’s just that I feel pretty weird since I know I hurt you. And that’s probably bothering me. But it’s getting better. (so he want’s to talk or?)
I told him I completely understand, and that I forgave him, and he should forgive himself too.
He said he is working on it…
After that, I got tired and didn’t really want to text so I just gave him a smiley face on which he put a seen.