Hi every body,hope all you guys have a great day
Now i will talk and share somethings happening to me now…
i cant belive,after 1 month i follow NO CONTACT,and now my ex has new girl
I was so shocked when i accidetally saw her facebooḳ,̣not my ex bf facebook
and i know after broke up me,he met another girl,and seems they are very enjoy and have fun.That girl is really the kind of girl he likes,i know his style about personality and all things,but i dont think it can quick like that
This morning,finish 1 month no contact and he sent me email back,and he said its good because im good and ok with break,but not mention about we will meet in the future for coffe.
And i decided calm down when i saw all things of them go out together,cooking,and even he gave her a book like a small gift.That girl liked him when we just broke up and she known about it,but still tried be cool and good with him,make he think she is an angel
I read some articles and websites and i will post this cases for girls in this forum if same my situation:
"Believe it or not but how your ex boyfriend got his new girlfriend matters in a very big way. I am going to outline three situations for you, two of these situations are going to focus on guys that you should be trying to get back and one of the situations is going to be focusing on guys that you should not be trying to get back. Let’s begin.
Situation 1- You broke up with your ex, realized you wanted him back but found out that he got a new girlfriend after the breakup. If you are in this situation then you are free to go ahead and try to get your ex boyfriend back.
Situation 2- He broke up with you and later got a new girlfriend. Again, this is a really common situation and you are free to go ahead and try to get him back.
Situation 3- He left you for another girl. He was either cheating or was in love with someone else. Ladies, I am going to be completely honest here, this guy is not someone that you should want to get back with. Sure, you can try to get him back but he needs to prove to you that he is trustworthy.
4 Truths To Getting An Ex Boyfriend Back With A New Girlfriend
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This section will explore some of the most important steps to getting back with an ex who has a new girlfriend. Admittedly you are at a bit of a disadvantage since he has moved on, or has he? Let’s explore!
Truth 1: Not contacting your ex is a must. Not only should you have implemented the No Contact Rule but you need to stay strong. Getting mad, breaking down and texting your ex a hateful message about his new girlfriend isn’t going to help your ultimate goal is it? Instead, be cool and don’t worry, every dog has it’s day.
Truth 2: It’s not always easy dating someone new. Especially if you came out of a relatively serious relationship. It may be entirely possible that your ex is uncomfortable in his new relationship. It happens all the time. This is one of the symptoms of what everyone likes to call a rebound relationship. This leads us to our next step…
Truth 3: Rebound relationships are relationships that usually form right after a breakup. Lucky for you rebound relationships don’t last forever. In fact, statistics show that 90% of rebound relationships are bound to fail. So, the odds are in your favor just make sure you keep your cool while he is dating his new girlfriend. Remember, if you freak out you are going to make a lot of mistakes and mistakes aren’t going to help get you two back together.
Truth 4: It is entirely possible that the further away from a breakup that your ex boyfriend gets the more nostalgic he will become about your relationship. Basically, instead of remembering all the bad things (like fights, disagreements or whatever caused your breakup) he will remember all the good things. This can definitely work in your favor.
How To Cope
It is not always easy to want someone back so badly and see them in another relationship with someone else. I put this section together to give you some advice on how to handle what you are feeling. Remember, just because he is dating someone new doesn’t mean your chances are gone completely. Sometimes men need to go out with someone new to realize just how good they had it with you.
Keep The Focus On You- Try your best not to obsess over his situation. You can’t control what he does but you can control what you do. Go out and have fun. Make new friends. Basically, just ramp up your social life so you can focus on the most important thing, yourself.
It’s Not Your Fault- Sometimes women have a tendency to believe that their ex started dating someone new because of something that they did or something that they could not provide. Dating isn’t always black and white like that. Whatever happens, make sure you don’t let an ex boyfriends actions affect how you feel.
Accept That There Will Be Pain- You are not a robot. You can’t just turn off your feelings. It’s ok to feel pain over the situation but once that pain starts creeping into your everyday life and effecting how you live then you have problems.
Beware Of The “I Want What I Can’t Have” Syndrome- This particular piece of advice probably should have gone higher on this page. Sometimes a select group of women will want their ex boyfriend back once they see him with someone new. If you find that you are in this situation be very careful about proceeding to get him back. You may need to go back and do some serious searching on whether or not you want him back for a legitimate reason.
Resist Any Comparisons- It is only human nature to want to compare yourself to the new (hopefully temporary) girlfriend. Are you better looking? Do you have a better personality? Comparing yourself to the new girl is not productive. You only hurt yourself in the process and that is not going to help your cause at all.
Are There Any Actions You Can Take To Help Your Cause?
So far this page has really been about personal things that you can do to get your ex back if he has a new squeeze. Now, I want you to realize that I laid this page out that way on purpose. The fact of the matter is that a certain amount of this is out of your control. I mean, if you have found a way to mind control someone please let me know because I could put that skill to good use. However, in this section I am briefly going to discuss certain actions you can take to drastically improve your chances of getting your ex boyfriend back.
(Remember, these actions should only be taken after you have completed the 30 Day No Contact Rule.)
Watch For Trouble Signs- No one is perfect and this is especially true of relationships. Each one has it’s ups and downs. Your job is to keep an eye out for his troubles with his new girl and be there to provide support and remind him how good he had it with you.
Initiate Contact Via Text Message- Test the waters with your ex boyfriend via text messaging. There are a whole set of rules and regulations that go with texting an ex. I am not going to go into those here but if you want to know them then please visit this page.
Be Very Nice To Him And His New Girlfriend- If you are on good terms with your ex or you have tested the waters via text messages and gotten a positive response be very wary about trashing his new girlfriend. It may be tempting but however strong that temptation is you are going to have to avoid it"
- If any girl same my situation and have some good idea can share me and we will debate about it,because we love ex all want him back
Thanks for reading my topic
i hope all things will good to you,and u will happy again,now we only can focus about ourself and use time to heal pain and be strong.about my story,i think my ex respect me when he hasnt posted anything of that girl,only photo of sighseeings when he out with her,just because i tried to find out and i know he has new girl after 2 weeks,but she post many photos in her fb and i known,but i decided stop watch,the more i watch the more i feel bad…now i feel better than 1 month ago,i went out with friends lastnight,shopping and change new hair,if someday my wish come true,it mean he back to me,if not i dont regret because i tried…i made a video for him in his birthday but he just watch one time,i think the best way for men when they want to move on that is with a new girl,they are different us,i dont care if he with any girl,i just scared if he fall in love with that girl…Ah,where are u from Athena?
I’m really from Montreal Canada. I can talk French really well. I also learnt English from my family. I’m gonna check out the links you sent me. Did you take the quiz? what did you get?