Advice? Is there hope?

I dated this girl for 10 months and for the first half of our relationship, everything was great. On the second half of it, I shut down emotionally and didn’t do anything to show her I care. She would always come to me, etc. Well I didn’t realize what I was doing til it was to late and now I’ve tried everything to get her back, including sending roses to her work, I even rescued her one night at 2 in the morning dropped everything I was doing to come help because someone slashed her tires and she did not know what to do and she was crying and mind you I was the 4th person she called, and begging. She didn’t even contact me after the roses. She started talking to another guy within less than a month after breakup, who I’m pretty sure is a rebound, they’ve been on one date. Every time I have talked to her she gives me the reasons her family and friends were happy when we broke up, and you can’t rewear dirty underwear, and that she is done. With that in mind she still post about me on facebook from time to time, nothing good and she plays it off to people like it isn’t about me. She just seems angry and I’ve ran out of options. I’m now trying this guide and been two weeks so far with no communication, but we have been broken up a month and 10 days.

I put as much information as I could, any advice or thoughts would be greatly appreciated.

I would like to go in more detail to get a better idea of everyone’s opinion.

I started dating this girl in February and for the first 5 months everything was perfect. We went to Cabo together and I would do random things and show her I care. Well the last 5 months I just completely cut myself out emotionally and stopped showing I care. She would do everything for me and always come to me. We started fighting alot and I would always turn it around on her. Well it came to a head a day after her birthday when I messed that up to. We broke up in December.

I texted her the next day and tried to get her back and she had said she wish she did not tell her parents yet and would have to think about it. Well three days later I tried again and she agreed. Through the next week I tried but she would get easily frustrated and she got tired of hiding it from her parents. She called me the next week and just said she was done that she could not do it. I begged and asked to not give up yet with no luck. Well I didn’t talk to her for two weeks and on December 31st I texted her and asked to talk with no response. My friend who is also her friend was told by her she is ignoring me. Well I ended up texting her just how I felt and ended it with I understand if you don’t respond. Well that night I went out two hours away to get my mind off of things and January 1st at 2 in the morning she calls me crying asking for help that I was the 4th person she called and she did not know what to do. Her friends tire had been slashed and a fight broke out and cops were on the way. Well I dropped everything I was doing and came back to rescue her only to get stuck in traffic. Mind you I had already been talking to her for an hour calming her down. Well I ended up getting her an uber and getting her and her friend somewhere safe and we agreed to talk on her way to work in the morning.

On January 1st still, she called me on her way to talk and said you cant be my night in shining armour and expect to fix everything. She also told me she is talking to someone else and that it would not be fair to him and that her family was happy when we broke up. She did agree to think about it and let me know.

Fast forward to January 2nd, she calls me and tells me that she is done and that she just can’t do it and I lost it and begged for her back. She did admit there is a part of her that wants to say yes but it is a stupid part and that why couldn’t I do this a month ago. She also kept reiterating her above arguement’s that it wasn’t fair to this other guy and that her parents didn’t like me. Well we ended the conversation there and left it at that.

On January 4th, I sent her a hundred roses to her work to show her I care and not just say it. I put on the card “If your ever not done, call me, I still love you.” Well she called the friend that we both know and told her about the roses and that she can’t believe I did that, and even though the friend told her she thought it was a good idea to give me a second chance she still said no, and how it wouldn’t be fair to the other guy. She never contacted me about the roses that day.

On January 5th, I went out with our mutual friend and her husband for the mutual friend’s birthday. Well I played a stupid move and posted a picture with two girls on Snapchat and she instantly deleted me, but only on snapchat not other social media. Later that night our mutual friend posted a snapchat of the mutual friend and I singing 99 problems but a bitch aint one to her snapchat. The ex did not like that either and proceeded to tell our mutual friend that. Mind you the ex had been watching our snaps all night. She also proceeded to tell our mutual friend that why is he not over me I’ve told him he needs to stop. This is at 2 in the morning btw, Well I called her also but before I knew the mutual friend did and told her, that I am doing what you asked and moving on and that there is nothing else I can do. She proceeded to say she knew that I purposely posted the picture earlier in the night and that she doesn’t know why we are still having this conversation. I told her that I just didn’t understand why she was getting upset and ended it with I guess this is good bye. This is the last time I have talked to her.

Well on January 16th she shared a status that was definitely about me and our relationship. Well the mutual friend ended up calling her out on it and telling her that I have done nothing but accept blame for how the relationship ended. Well the ex came back with that it was not about me and that she needs to piss off. The ex also went on to say that the mutual friend only ever talks about me, mind you this is not true in the time between these two incidents they talked a decent bit with nothing being said about me. The two ended up ending their friendship and the ex has not posted anything on any social media that I can see since that day. The ex supposedly also went on the second date with the guy she had been talking to this same night, but due to certain circumstance we do not believe this actually happened.

Nothing has happened since, so I’m asking for guidance on what I should do. I have accepted she may never come back, but a part of me does not want to give up yet. She has always been very sweet but I have never seen her be so hateful. I do not understand why she is this mad.

Also like to add that I have a response a text lined up to send that apologizes for how I acted after the break up. I do not know if I should send it or even when I would. I don’t know what to do, except that I am coming to terms with how everything has played out and that she may never be back. I do not know if there is anything else I can do to get her back or if she needs to decide to text me at this point. I would also like to add I’m 23 and she is 22. Id like to add one more thing also, she was staying with her parents, who did not like me, and now she has been back at her dorm room for a week, where we have memories together. Also all of this is locally this is not a long distance relationship. Please give advice on what you think, I just don’t want to let her go.

She said she does not want to continue with you, so you have to accept her choice. She has her reasons for the break up and reasons for not wanting to get back together. The first 10 months should have been filled with happiness, but they weren’t and you can’t go back and change that. Now she’s seeing someone else. Don’t contact her again because you’ve already done that to excess. Stop stalking her social media. The only way you might have a chance for reconciliation is if she is the one to reach out to you and asks to resolve all the issues. Try to move on the best you can…