This is about to be a long one. My ex girlfriend and I dated on and off for 2 and a half years, she broke up with me about 3 months ago. We loved each other and cared about one another more than ourselves. Through out our relationship she would be so overwhelming that I told her I needed a break two separate times, each break lasted no longer then a few weeks. During the last few months of our relationship we would get into arguments about half of the time we spent together, the other half of the time we got along perfectly and it was amazing and passionate. After one final emotional argument she broke up with me.
After a few days since the breakup we talked and discussed about getting back together after taking some time away from each other to decide what needed to change in order to work things out. We still talked to each other pretty frequently for the next 2 months, but she seemed to be more indecisive about giving our relationship another chance, it went from definitely to maybe. She would constantly tell me that she missed me and would always love and care about me no matter what happens. I became depressed and acted needy towards her. After 2 months I asked her if she was serious about getting back together and that she really needed to think about it, she then told me that she didn’t want to give us another chance. I was devastated and called her as I broke down, I was convinced we would be able to make things work.
We didn’t talk for a week until I began calling her over phone. I would call her and gush out my emotions and beg her for a second chance. It started out at one or two phone calls a week to nearly everyday until she got annoyed with me over the phone and told me to she told me that she liked talking to me but stop calling everyday. So I stopped frequently calling her, and kept it minimal.
This was the situation until a week ago. After she started talking to me again on her own, my ex revealed to me that she was talking to someone else and that she thought that I should know. I couldn’t keep my composure, I was devastated that she was moving on so fast after just deciding a month ago that we wouldn’t date again. I broke down over the phone, she told me that they were just talking and that it wasn’t serious and that they only liked each other. One thing she said to me that really stuck out was “It’s nothing like what we had together, he’s transferring to a new college in two months, I don’t know what will happen” (we go to different community colleges but live in the same town). After the conversation over the phone, I texted her paragraphs of how I felt and how hurt I was. I obsessed over it and realized that it was probably more than just talking.
I called her and confronted her about it a few days later. She admitted that they’ve been sleeping together and have been dating for the last month and that she would always love me and care about me and will always miss me. I was convinced it was a rebound and obsessed over it. This is where I really messed up. I was so caught up in being hurt and angry about it I texted her paragraphs of terrible and hurtful things, telling her she did me wrong and that she was in a rebound relationship. I told her that I hated her and that she ruined any chances of us being friends again. She understandably blocked my number after that. I’m ashamed of myself for the things I said. From a different phone I apologized the next day over text and then even called her to apologize over the phone. It was a good and honest apology, I told her that we needed time from each other and that I wouldn’t contact her again. She thanked me for saying sorry and told me she would get over it, she understood that i’m going through a hard time and told me she would reach out to me after a couple of months and unblocked my number.
Since then I’ve visited this website for guidance on what to do. I know I’ve already messed up on the not acting needy or mean spirited part completely. I still think we can work things out in the future and have a healthy relationship, she’s even told me she still has feeling for me. I’m afraid that I’ve waited too long to work on myself and after being so mean to her that I’ve lost my chance of getting her back. At the moment i’m focused on improving myself. Is it too late for me to win her back in the future?