As one of my coping mechanisms, I wrote all my feelings down in an e-mail draft.
I edit it everyday o reflect my feelings for the day. It is long and there are a lot of intimate details about myself and I spoke about my feelings freely and openly.
As I was editing it again, I accidentally sent it. I made the mistake to write in her e-mail address.
I am on day 15 of no contact. I panicked and immediately called her. She did not answer, so I texted her to please not read the e-mail and that it was an exercise for myself and never meant to be sent to her.
She responded that she totally gets it and that she had already deleted it and not read it. She promised.
Does this constitute as breaking the no contact rule?
Honestly even though it is so minor it is a breach of the no contact period. Don’t let that deter you from your goal though! You should continue your exercise as that will help you put your life together. I know it’s terrible to hear that you have to start over again, but just think of it as more time to work on you. Believe me I made the same mistake twice of breaking NC and it has helped me get on with my life.
I wish you the best and keep your head up!
Thank you PrinceJ. I will certainly continue to work on myself. It just sucks as I was actually doing great with NC and absolutely did not mean to send that e-mail. I don’t even know how that happend. I guess the universe had other plans. She said she didn’t read it and knowing her she’s telling the truth. So I will continue to take care of myself and when the time is right, send her a letter.
No problem @joshf I’m only a few days away from sending the letter myself haha. Don’t worry about it. And I know you are watching the calendar every single day waiting for that NC period to be over but look man you are doing great things by working on yourself! Don’t forget that and don’t look at it as you just extended the time until you can speak to her, but look at it as more time to work on you and get right within! I promise you it will be worth it! I wish you continued good luck!!
See after they’ve had the letter and replied saying thanks
Should you wait a few days after that just to remind them of a happy time and just say how are you?
@prod98- Well this could be wishful thinking on my part but I believe that there would be more than a simple “thanks”. I believe either a phone call or even a few texts would come after sending the letter and that’s all your asking for.
See what I learned is you are trying to recreate the attraction for a new relationship. The best way to do that would be to become friends first. So I would definitely use the opportunity of texting to slowly but surely build a consistent friendship, and ultimately ask her out for a face to face meet up. You don’t have to label it as a date at all.
I would not try to remind her or bring up the past. Your looking for a new future.