I just want to say a thing or two for those going through it from someone who just ended it:
Sharing is therapeutic to me, and hopefully useful to you.
I was in a fantastic 13 month relationship. We never fought (that I recall), never raised our voices, and both endured some trying times with the other to support. Then, just one day, she broke it off.
I was lucky and had a friend guide me towards NC. During the first week, I found this program. Once I got my stuff back a week later (important things like my nice glasses as opposed to the crap pair I wear around the house), I started the 30 days. It ended up being closer to 6 weeks. It F’n sucked.
I intentionally forced myself to a specific annual event with my friends which she came along with last year. Two birds, I got hell off my couch and built an honest base for a memory text.
She replied. Quick back and forth and she went silent. I waited patiently…patiently…not so patiently…
Set up a date, it got cancelled. Went on a different date, it was awful, but hey I’m out there.
Patiently…
While bitching to my best friend about how my life was over because she wouldn’t reply after five days of patiently…not so patiently waiting…in the middle of the conversation she replies! She took a jab at me too, a playful one! I replied and now I’m patiently waiting again…it’s been an hour but we’ll see.
My point is…my ex is a highly intelligent (medical doctor, top of her class type), highly decisive, never ever wrong type. I can’t say if Kevin’s system works, I won’t know till the day I die because the goal is to get the one you love back permanently. I can say, in her reactions, and her limited internet activity, that it is having an effect and an effect in my (our, I want the best for her and I feel I can give her that) favor. Have faith that you can succeed! At the very least, following NC properly will give you the best chance and leave you with no regrets that you didn’t try your best.
Closing note: I have two dates planned with two girls who are probably 10x better for me than my ex. Do I want my ex back? 100% but knowing there are other, maybe better fish in the sea has given me the confidence to properly re engage the special little fish that I want.