http://www.thelovequeen.com/5-stages-breaking-up/
It seems as if people go through these break up stages in different orders. How can we know for sure which one our ex is on when we’re NC?
Well, my order was: denial - anger - denial - sadness - bargaining - sadness - anger - anger - sadness - anger - acceptance. All within the brief span of 7 months. …
Short answer, you can’t know. And frankly, it’s none of your business. You shouldn’t be using that information to manipulate her.
But if she was the one to break up with you, then that process might have started well before she told you about it, and could even be in acceptance by now if she’s convinced you two should remain broken up. (Sorry, I haven’t followed your story)
Everyone goes through the stages differently. Like unimare said, there is no way of knowing what your ex is going through when you are in NC. It’s best not to think about it and focus on your number one priority: you.
@unimare highly doubt she is in acceptance. We broke up on the 6th but before that we went a week without speaking because of an argument we had. After speaking to her on the phone yesterday I think he has MAJOR healing to do.
Btw what’s the point of contacting them later if you don’t know where they’re at?
You’re supposed to contact them only when you know where YOU are at. Without the confounds of emotion and desperation. And hope that they also are at a phase where they can hear you out and reconsider your relationship.
I know NC is sold a bit as this magical tool for getting an ex back, but really it’s all about fixing yourself up. You’re not supposed to be focusing on her healing process. Just give it time and focus on yourself.
@Uniamare I’m still just a little rattled at the moment. Me and my ex OFFICIALLY called it quits last night after 2 and a half hour phone call. She said she might want to try again in the future (don’t know if its because im her first).
She said she needs ALOT of time to heal from all this before she considers getting into a new relationship. Idk if I should just forget about her or still keep her in the back of my mind.
@Unimare were you able to get your ex back??
I feel like she just wants me to move on. Why would she say something like that?
This whole thing makes me sad…