Platinum…i hope everything goes well…moonbunny is right
If you want to talk to him yiu can initiate the contact
Send him a text and see how he responds to your text
Thank you guys… Really, thank you a lot. :') I think I’ll prolong NC for one more week. I already have an idea of what to send him, but I’ll just wait a bit more. I’m just scared of being ignored… That’s all 
And I miss him. Not just as a lover, but as a friend. He was my best friend, and I was his. He said once that I was just like a sister to him, only I was his girlfriend. He was very, VERY, caring, romantic, loving… everything a good boyfriend should be.
I wish I could be his best friend again. Or a good friend. That’s all I want with him right now, a friendship. Then build a romantic foundation from there.
Yes I agree with your plan! Go on NC for a bit longer to calm your emotions and so when you send him that message it’ll be from your best frame of mind.
Aww… yeah . I really miss him as my best friend too. I miss all the jokes that we’ve share and the way we used to talk to each other. Sounds like a good plan ! That’s what I’m planning to do to. Don’t fret if he ignored you at first though ! There were a lot of times that I tried to connect with my ex and end up he just ignoring my message. I was sad at the moment but I realised it was just the ‘push-pull’ behavior. Oh and there’s this article that is really helpful for me :
http://exboyfriendinsight.com/what-it-really-takes-to-get-ex-boyfriend-back/
hope you get some insight from here Platinum!
I was planning on contacting him this week, but then this happened and I’m hurt and angry… I can’t stop dreaming about him… Last night I dreamed about us being alone in my room, with the rain falling outside and… well, I think you get the picture. I wake up devastated… And me dreaming about him is something I can’t control. I can make myself busy and think less about him, but dreaming at night is something out of my control…
To think I drew him a portrait of him and bought him stuff for his birthday… remembering how happy we both were that day… and this is how he thanks me on my birthday… Adding to all the other hurtful stuff he did after breaking up with me… This guy really needs to learn a lesson or two.
Turns out I had an unanswered message on Facebook from him wishing me a happy birthday, heheh… ^^’ I take PART of what I said back. But it was a pretty basic birthday wish. Well, it’s better than nothing. I simply replied with a thank you and a smiley.
I think I’m not going to engage in a conversation yet. A thank you is enough for now, I think… I still can’t get over the fact he ignored me for all this time and all the other stuff he did. I’m keeping true to the promise I made myself. That I’ll make him regret the breakup and that I’ll make him knee before me like I’m the goddess he once worshiped, begging for one more chance.
I told you platinum 
I told
You were so angry with him
But am glad that you are happy now
You are motivated now
This should be a sign that you continue on your plan
He will come back to you
I hope evrything goes well
I’m not exactly “happy”. I mean, this was the least he could do. The very least.
I don’t want him back the way he is now. Before he decides to get back (if he ever decides to), he has some changes to do, as I’m no longer the girl I used to be, so his tricks won’t work as well as they did before. I was a hard-to-get girl, and now I’m even harder. I’m better than ever before.
When we were in that talking phase before he committed to me, he had competition. He didn’t know that, but he had it. Out of all the guys hitting on me, he won. I chose him. I remember I was going through a tough time on a previous relationship, and then I met him. Slowly he worked his way into convincing me that he was 1000 times better than the guy I was with. Eventually that guy made me realize he didn’t love me as I loved him, and I became crazy about my now ex-boyfriend. I broke up with that guy and a week later he committed to me.
Of course, that was then and this is now. That was the guy that got my heart. Right now he’s not who he used to be.
Now you may be thinking “you went for the rebound!” Well, maybe. I wasn’t really happy with that other guy. He didn’t make me feel properly loved. Actually, I’m happy I broke up with that jerk. I was just convincing myself that the stuff he did was normal and that he really liked me. Nope, nope, nope. He was a on/off boyfriend. Deep inside, my heart didn’t feel I was in a relationship. So this didn’t it make a real rebound. I mean, 19 months are more than enough proof that it wasn’t a rebound.
I remember I had a date with my ex the next day I broke up with that guy. That date was very intimate for a first date. Let’s say that my ex is quite the naughty type, if you know what I mean. I was sitting on his lap, and while he was touching me (he was really in love with me by that time, he was going crazy), I thought to myself “Is this alright? I just broke up with him yesterday, and now here I am like this…”
Obviously I didn’t let my ex get as far as he wanted.
Memories. Just memories from a time I miss so badly, when I had my phone blown up with texts from him and I had that pleasant feeling of being chased, desired, wanted…
I know how you are feeling sometimes
I just want to cal him straight amd tell him how i feel
I want him to love me thw way he used to love me 
Don’t do that. As hard as it may be. Don’t do it. I feel like you too sometimes.
You’ll just be painting a needy and desperate picture of yourself. That won’t attract your ex. You have to be a strong woman.
That birthday message from him looked like one from a total stranger. Hence why I’m not happy. Sure, it’s better than nothing, but it could be even better. I really felt like not responding or asking him “What, am I stranger to you or something?” Idiot…
Instead I was polite, showing what a classy lady I am and always was, and said thank you. And I’m not interested in prolonging the conversation any longer. I have to be in control. And so have you.
You can always come here to let out your feelings. Or you can journal them. But don’t let him know how you feel about him or the breakup. It isn’t until you feel confident and over what he did that you are ready to return to him.
I am confident
But its just that i want things back very fast
I know it takes time to do that but sometimes i just want to share my feelings with him…
Yes, yes, I understand, I want him back as sooner as possible too… But maybe it’s better if we take it easy. In the long run, it may be better. Many things will be new. We will be different. Maybe more mature and stronger.
Look, we don’t know what the future will bring us. Maybe it will bring them back, or maybe not. The thing is, we need to pursue our dreams and be optimistic. If you keep dwelling on pessimistic thoughts, you will end up driving yourself crazy and hurt yourself. So calm down. If you have a religion, pray. Do the things that you like. Work on being the best girlfriend he could ever have. You know what he likes, so you have the material to work on that.
Your pain will fade away. It will, definitely.
Can you tell me the way i shoulf text him?? Like after first text msg i texted him 3 days after that…again i texted him after two days…
How long should i take to text him…and when should i start texting him
What did you tell him in your previous text msgs?
I just reminded him of a particular movie which he loved like crazy amd he was so crazy that he made me watch that movie everytime any he used to tell me the stories and dialogues…we talked about the movie amd then
I ended up the conversation
Well, that’s a start. At least talking with your ex isn’t awkward any more.
Treat your ex like an acquaintance you’re in good terms with. As you progress, you can treat him like a close friend. Remember, though, that you’re trying to light up a fire that has already been put out. You have to be patient. If he starts to talk about the relationship, try to change the subject gently. This new flame has to be stronger than the one that faded.
Ya last i texted him yesterday
When should i text him next ??
Hey Platinum! OMG I’m glad that he actually did wished you! Shows that he at least still have some balls for doing that…
Anyway it’s really his lost for just walking away like that. You can hate him or curse him, but it’s all just because you still love him deeply and you are hurt… But I feel the best you can go is let go. Letting go doesn’t mean giving up, it means you just let things go with the flow and not worry too much or how it may be and may not. It’s hard to explain but it’s more to a mindset that we have to learn to adapt.
I feel that it’s a good step forward for you ! But just stop thinking too much and let go of all the negative faults. We cannot change them but we can change ourselves. You’re right, he have to work on himself too so you two can get into a healthy relationship together. But if he hasn’t grow up like you did, he doesn’t deserve to be with you.
I have faith that true love have bonds that don’t break easily. It doesn’t mean that they’re not in your life now they won’t forever. Sometimes a break up is only an opportunity for both parties to grow up. You just have to continue moving forward and live for yourself. The right ones will come to you either is our exs or someone better that truly deserve to be with us. Not some sissy who choose to give up …
If you guys want to hear some music I have some recommendation :
Moving On- Kodaline
I just like this band so much… their music speaks to my soul. I cried when listening to their music but at times like this… music is our medicine.
Tell me about it after you’ve heard it! 
Yes. I’m letting go. I have to focus on myself right now. College is starting. He may talk to me when he feels like, but talking is where I draw the line. I don’t want to be friendzoned.
Still, I love this guy. It is that feeling that’s holding me firmly on my objective. I was happy with him, he was happy with me, we can still work this out. So, like all other things in life, I must fight for what I dream of. Deep down I feel I have what it takes to conquer him again. I mean, I did it once without even trying, what’s to stop me from doing it twice?
Let him be. Soon he’ll realize what a mistake he made.