Have been married 20 years and the wife recently gave me the “I love you, but not like I used to” situation. I did not see this coming and was literally in shock. I always thought I had a perfect marriage and I was going to be with this woman for the rest of my life, and still really want to be. I’m willing to make myself a better man for me and have immediately started working on matters.
I’m looking for more advice on how to deal with no-contact while living together. At this point neither one of us cannot move out due to financial matters. Were currently living on completely different sides of the house. I’ve asked her to give me space, but she invades it and likes to talk and she gives me hugs in the morning while I’m getting ready for work, She still says she loves me, but she is still headstrong about separating and divorcing. She tells me she still has feelings for me and always will as I’ve been a huge part of her life for 20 years. She wants to talk to me all the time, she tells me she cares a lot about me, etc, etc.
So is there a better solution on how to engage the no-contact with our situation, or should I wait until she leaves the home after the divorce to start no-contact? She has said she needs to work out the financial matters that could take 3-4 months. I personally am not sure if I can handle her presence at the home that long knowing she is going to leave at some point. I feel like I’ve been told I have a terminal disease and will die at some point in the near future, but there could be a one in a million chance that a miracle cure can happen. Any advice is appreciated.
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