Hey everyone,
It’s been 2 weeks since I last made contact with my ex girlfriend (day of break up). I have made great progress on gaining confidence, self-worth, I worked on my communication issues (cause the break-up) and I am not depressed anymore. Having her blocking me on social media was a great thing to do. However, from time to time I want to know what and how she is doing. That’s a common thing. I still miss her but I know I don’t need her. I’m in process of buy a home, got a new job offer closer to my hometown (where I currently live and she does too). I will take the job offer as soon as I get my home. She does not know any of this. Everything is very positive right now.
Now, the tricky part. After talking it over with friends and family, they all asked me if I still see her in my life. I told them YES. So, instead of trying to move on without her. I will try to reconnect and get this second chance that I owe to myself (due to me not listening to her on her needs) to show her I have adapted and understand what needs to be done.
How do I reestablish communication with her? See left it up to me to contact her.
I want to do a text message. Why?
It is the easiest way to reach to her. She will have time to read it and think about what to say, if she wants to text back.
example 1: Good memory text
I heard your favorite song “Sweet Home Alabama” play on the radio today. It reminded me of you on New Years. Where you sang and danced all over the place. It was a good memory. Hope all is well.
example 2: Exciting news
Hey, I have some exciting stuff going on right now. Pretty busy right now, but I’d love to tell you sometime later. Hope you are doing well.
Is that good on reopening contact with her? Any other ideas?
I was going to do this on Feb 3rd. It is short of the 30 day no contact, but to be honest, she is a different type of person than what this article says. I personally and friends feel like 30 days is too much and it will show that I am not interested and she should move one. I figured between 19-22 days is the right time frame.
I have all this planned out, but I am not putting all of my eggs in one basket. I accepted that it will not work so the rejection will not hurt me as much.
You miss 100% of the chances you don’t take. This is one of them. I am confident in myself that I can at least get her back. Then keeping her should be easy, now that I know what needs to be done.