2.5yr Long Distance Break-up

Hey, I’m in a long distance relationship and we’ve been together for almost 3 years and spent months together in real life,This was both our first relationship in our lives.(i’m soon 18 hes soon 21) i really thought he was the one we even talked about marriage in the future just a few weeks ago,but My bf just broke up with me because he says he doesn’t have romantic feelings towards me anymore but he still really cares about me and says he misses me and he wish he could get his feelings back but he just couldn’t.

He’s been trying to regain feelings for half a year while he was still with me.(I had no knowledge of this, i thought things were okay) He started losing feelings since i had liked another guy(not love) and did something sexual with the guy once over the internet which i really regret, it happened almost a year ago and he forgave me, but he still couldn’t fix how he was loosing feelings since then. He said he doesn’t think we will get back together anytime soon, but told me i’ll always be a big part of his life and would be happy looking back at the memories no matter what happens in the future and still wants to be stay friends as much as possible.(His Words)

Do you think he can regain feelings and get back together with me after some time? Do you think he is still confused about his feelings? I’m already trying to change myself to fix the issues we had in our relationship while not contacting him.I believe that the time we spent together and the mark we’ve left on each other will bring us back together.I still love him very much.

He still cares about you, but he is not confused about his feeling! You hurt him deeply by being unfaithful. Being “sexual over the internet” is cheating and it will take him a long time to move past it and trust you again. And since it’s been almost a year ago that this happened, there’s a possibility he might not ever want to reunite with you. I’m sure you’ve apologized, but since then he hasn’t been able to believe you meant it and wouldn’t hurt him again… The thing is; when you love someone you don’t cheat on him… It’s in the past and maybe he’s forgiven you, but still has doubts as to whether you can be trusted or not.

Since this is a long distant relationship, doing limited contact will be easy. You’ll have to somehow prove that you can be trusted and it won’t be easy. Hopefully you will be able to discuss the actual reasons you flirted with the other guy and convince your ex you won’t ever do it again!