I’m a senior in high school but school is going to start up in a month so I won’t have that keeping me busy. I quit my old job 3 months ago so I’m trying to find a new job right now. But about 2 and a half months ago I had surgery on my foot so I’m not able to go to the gym.
I only really liked going to parties to socialize with other people. I used to be in a sport but I couldn’t do it anymore because of my surgery. I used to be so athletic so this summer is so different for me.
Is it possible for you to make more friends in school that might occupy your mind away from him …
Yeah I’m looking to make some new friends at school. I just have to wait for that month to go by lol
Hi girls,
sorry about the late reply, have been trying to keep myself super busy…
I can completely understand how you both feel about seeing your ex’s face! His sister sent me a snap chat of them both on holiday yesterday and it made my stomach churn, he looked so happy and content 
was quite nasty of her to send it I thought 
Catherine8, maybe try something like yoga if you have an injury? Will keep you toned and make you flexible? I’m going to take up yoga too 
I think Im in denial at the moment, mainly because it still says that I’m in a relationship with him on Facebook, and he hasn’t taken it off either…and I know when it does happen, its going to hurt so bad Im still debating whether to contact him as its been almost 10 days…
Amy111, I need up taking some friends off of my social media so I couldn’t see his face and get that feeling again. I know its kind of bad to do that cause now those people can’t see something and tell him if that ever happens. But I think you should be the one to change the relationship status on there. It will show him you have control over this and it will also be better for you. If he does it first then your feelings will be hurt. So if you do it then you will be less hurt if that makes any sense.
Amy111 i agree with catherine8 i think you should change your status because it honestly might have him thinking dang why she change it and he might start creeping on your page …and for her to send it i think she did it on purpose.he might have told her to do it…i think you should delete her because if not it might be a constant reminder of him
Yeah that’s very true I guess I’m just worried that if I do then I’ll be cutting off a missed opportunity. I was going to email him saying “I realised our relationship is still on Facebook and was going to change it if that’s okay?” Or should I just leave it?
I’m hopeful that by doing 3 months no contact and getting back together hopefully I can do 5 months and he might still be missing me maybe I hope!
Girl! Do not ask him for permission!
Kiya is right Amy! Keep the control and he’ll know that he has no power over you. He won’t like that!
You don’t want him to have any control. He already has a control over your emotions right now, he doesn’t need anymore.
Exacto
amy111, I know how you are feeling right now. You feel like saying one simple thing to him won’t do any harm, but you don’t want him to have anymore control. Show him you have all the control now.
Ok-will do it when I get home… Ahh I’m scared, I feel like this is the only connection I have left with him/that if I delete it he’ll get the wrong impression and think I don’t want to be with him
Thank you for all this btw everyone - I forget how supportive everyone is on here sometimes Nd it’s such a relief-it’s like my secret page haha!
That’s what Kevin would call your ‘lizard brain talking’
Ie: the part of your brain that’s scared of change
But change is going to help you!
Yeah that’s very true… Okay, eek! Kevinyou better get me back with my ex after all this pain and worrying! ?
I hope it works :S 10 days no contact down-4 months to go how are you so far?
I’m fine. I was feeling good about myself and my 30 days of NC has been over for a while, so I sent my ex the ‘you were right to break up/ we both need space right now’ message. I didn’t write a letter because I don’t know where he’s living at the minute so I just sent him a message. He hasn’t replied though. Not sure if that’s a bad thing or not… if someone sent me that I think I would have at least replied to agree? I don’t know.
When did you send it? When I last got back together with mine last year, he said he was very close not to replying to me because he was still hurting-could possibly be he’s thinking about the consequences of replying and maybe it scares him that he still feels vulnerable to you?
It was this week, 3 days ago. Yeah, I’m trying to push away the idea that he’s not replying to me because he hates me! I figure that he would have unfriended or blocked me if that was the case (it was a fb message).
I think he’s hurting because I know the breakup wasn’t easy for him either. I’m going to give it at least another month before I reach out again. He needs to know I’ve changed, and he needs to think about what went wrong too.
I guess I thought it was just a good passing note to say that I’m okay, and I’m not angry and I hope he’s doing well. At least that way he knows I’m not resentful after a month of NC.
I completely get that-you never know, it might just take a bit of time now.
I’ve already thought of a date in going to end NC haha, the weekend after my birthday in mid November. It’s over 3 months (like he requested) but no more than 5 months…it’s going to be a loooong slog
Maybe! Definitely just have to stand my ground and not message again until the timing is right.
Yeah, that’s a good idea. Any reason why you want to use that date in particular? Do you think he’ll probably reach out to you on your birthday?
I’ve given myself until the end of the year to try and get him back. If by then I have made no progress, it’s time to cut my losses forever.
Yeah it will be a long slog but also in a weird way it’s not that long. In your lifetime it’s a tiny amount. If you think you’ll be together forever afterwards then its definitely worth it!