So I had been speaking to my ex, therefore I’ve asked him for some time out, so NC is not a shock for him, like it should be. But a week in, and no word at all from him, not a message, not a FB like.
I know there is another point to this, that I work on myself in this time, so I have joined a hula hoop class and started cooking healthy food and scrapped the take-aways, and I am booking in something to do every day after work to stop me moping, and wondering where he is, and with who(m).
The last message I had from him was understanding but said “I know it is hard, but breaking up was right for me” so I ask you, is this futile, am I just kidding myself??
Hi dear I feel you … am in the same boat just keep busy !
I feel like I am kidding myself too, in thinking we will get back. Although he isn’t aware of my no contact yet.
Keeping busy is definitely helpful, but my brain always comes back to thinking about him.
I do things around the house, and its for me and for my enjoyment, but it feels like I am keeping the house how he likes it for when/if he comes back.
I find being around other people helps. Becuz you need to focus on them to focus on the conversation…
How long are you in no contact?
Keeping busy dear @nora but just feel it is useless if he doesn’t want be back ultimately. I know it’s self improvement too but back of my head I’m doing it to get him back.,
Only 7 days @lil_lemon5
@lil_lemon15 sorry
I’m at day 2, cuz he had to get his stuff on Thursday. Had to restart becuz of that, but was at like a full seven.
Has it gotten any easier as the days progressed? Are you doing 30 days?
@lil_lemon15 I’d say I’ve kept busier so in that respect it has got easier.
But then everyday I don’t hear I worry.
I’ve booked something in to do every day so I keep busy & see friends but I worry every day I don’t deal with things because I’m keeping busy, like I’ll finish the 30 day minimum & it’ll just hit me?
@nora have you heard at all?