Why cant I just say goodbye?

reconciliation
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Why do I keep going back to my ex even though I know he doesn’t want a relationship?

We are sleeping & spending time together. Sometimes its great, sometimes we just argue about how we feel. I then decide we need no contact but cant go a day without changing my mind. I know I need to cut ties but I just cant do it. I am clinging onto false hope and making myself worse.

I have moved to my parents since the break up and he has moved out our home to a new area as he said it reminded him of me too much(this was also so he could be closer to his ex whom he has a child with)

I told him last night that I need to move forward with my life and he got upset/angry and has since deleted all our photos off instagram and facebook and says he did this because they are a constant reminder of our relationship - Yet he is still texting me saying “this is your call” presumably because I said we cant sleep together anymore

I know we are really good for each other when we are not like this and not being stubborn or trying to prove a point

A part of me feels its gone too far to get back together and I know 30 days NC would make him cut me off and move on even quicker to someone new

I don’t know what to do

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@Ems - I’ve tried to give good advice on your other posts. The reason you keep seeing him and having sex with him is because you love him and hope he will change his mind about a relationship. Having sex will NOT change things. He needs to see that he could be happy with you outside the bedroom. But since he already said he doesn’t want the stress of and doesn’t have time for a relationship, you need to believe and accept that. Being friends won’t work because it will devastate you when he finds someone else he actually wants to have a relationship with. Maybe he will even reunite with his ex because they have a child together. The best thing would be for you to forget him and date guys with no children. But if you insist on staying in his life and he said “it’s your call”, maybe tell him you would like to see him sometimes, but without the sex. Just go out and have fun…