What should I do in this strange situation?

reconciliation
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Hello everyone,

I’m new into this page, and maybe someone can give me a good Advice… but let me first explain my “story” a bit (And I’m very sorry about my English, sadly it isn’t my mother language)

After 5 years of relationship, my ex-gf dumped me (14 March) with the phrase “I love you too much but I realized that I’m not in love with you”… but she also told me that “I want to go with you to look for a new car (I’m changing mine) and I want to go on vacations with you the next August (As we had planned)”

It was all ok, but few hours later I started with the begging part and she ended telling really painfull things to me (Most of them false accusations like “I needed someone to talk to in the last month and you weren’t there for me”… and thats funny since I spent 171 hours of phone calls to her in the last 30 days, and I went to see she 18 days out of the 30 last days). Finally, she blocked me from EVERYWHERE the next day (15 March) and I’m in NC since then (Almost 14 days already, YAY!!!)

Suddenly, the 23th of March she unblocked me from everywhere but she hasn’t contacted me, so I kept doing my NC…

The problem is that before she dumped me, we bought some furniture (We live in separated houses) and we spent more than 800$ on them. All the furniture was expected to be delivered at her house between the past monday and the past friday… and I’m pretty sure that them were delivered already.

My question is. Since she has unblocked me from everywhere… Do you think that she is waiting for me to contact about my part of the furniture? Should I break the NC and ask about it?

Maybe I should wait until finishing the 30 days and send a text to her, something like “Hey, how are you? I was in front of the shop were we bought our furniture and remembered about it. Do you have it already? I’m looking forward to get my part”

Really, I don’t know what to do.

Any advise would be much appreciated!!

Thank you!!

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Bump

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Any advice?

Thank you!

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Have you done something already?

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Hello,

Yes, but I’m pretty sure that my ex has an evil twin… and is difficult to know which is active at all times.

I knew the furniture was delivered so I sent a txt to her the past sunday speaking about a movie. She replied (It was a surprise) and was very friendly. Finally we met yesterday and she showed up with the furniture haha (But before, she changed her mind 3 times in 10 minutes “I want to see you”, “Now I don’t want to see you”, “Ok, it’s good If we met up”) and It was like being with two different girls at the same time.

The good twin: Apologized, almost cried, told me that she want to see me again this week, she even told me that in some time she want to have a date with me, she hugged me a lot.

The evil twin: In her opinion, everything is my fault, she was already one year not loving me (Strange since she was all the year without giving me any space, She was all day with me and getting angry If I was busy, for example), and she even told me that she decided to break up with me and that the decision is never going to change.

The good twin strikes again: She told me “Hey please, write to me whenever you want, let’s meet more times, please be friend with my group of friends so we can have more common friends and more chances to be together”. Again some more tears and she left.

So… I don’t know what to think. I know now the real reason behind our break up… and it was because she got “cheated” by a new friend he made using the internet (He promissed a lot of thing to her), they met up, they had sex (3 days after breaking with me) and then he dumped my ex (She unblocked me after she got dumped,and blocked him, what a coincidence!!!) and it was fun, because he dumped my ex using facebook and since we have common friends, I read how he dumped my ex with something like "I’m not in love with you, I just loved the fantasia I created around us… but it is just a fantasia. P.S.: The sex was great, and it is always good to my self steem to have sex with a girl in a relationship of 5 years.

Right now… I will strike back with some more weeks of NC, probably 4 or 5 and see how the things are going. I’m in love like the first day, but I need more time to think about everything.

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You can afford to do more no contact. You were together for along time, she won’t forget you easily.

It’s obvious she cares a lot about you. Hum… Improve yourself inside and out and your life and in one two weeks try to meet up with common friends. That way she can see you but not be with you. She can see you interact with even other girls :wink: eheh. but don’t contact her in the meantime