What do I do after NC 30 days

Ok so if my ex boyfriend texts me during the NC period wanting to see me or telling me he has made a mistake, what do I do? And what do I do once the 30 days is up?
Thanks

If he says he thinks he has made a mistake you just tell him “Well come here if you think you’ve made a mistake”. That’s how I’d do it, straight to the point.

If he’s genuine he’ll come, if not you won’t hear from him or he’ll make stupid excuses.

Hi Dot
So he has told you he made a mistake?

Makeupjunkie
No I told him that I couldn’t see him until I had dealt With the pain of the breakup
I just sent my son out the door to him.
He appeared shocked and upset but I was strong and didn’t give in but I just want to no what to do when he texts me as I’ve no doubt he will. I want him back desperately but I also want to take the opportunity to prove to him that with the help of my therapy etc I can be a better person in a relationship and it can work a 2nd round when we both work at it x

Good for you for staying strong! So I take it he broke it off with the girl? Maybe just take some time for you and really think if you want him back…you sound alot better and stronger than you did earlier this week :slight_smile: Remember take care of you first !

What was the reason or reasons for break up?

I’m not too sure if he has broke up with her or if he was even ‘with’ her in all honestly!
I feel ok atm just hoping he realises before it’s too late x

He was messaging her all day, everyday and I’ve noticed since Tuesday he only goes online (was using whattsapp) a couple of times a day. He never used whattsapp til he started messaging her. So I’m not even sure if he is talking to her.
I’m so confused.
I don’t look at him when he collects our son, it’s really hard as I just wna grab him n hug him, but I make sure I’m dressed and my hair is clean and straightened (he always liked me to wear down and I ain’t for a long while) each day is harder than the last x

Hmm very strange with the so called new girl. My ex has not contacted me at all. Been three wks tomorrow. Hang in there

Well he just dropped son off on way to work. Asked when he was having him next (was trying to initiate a convo) he said Sunday so I guess the hard part is now waiting to see if he contacts me asi would normally contact him.
Yes the ‘new girl’ thing is odd.
I want to talk to his mum but coz she’s knows what’s going on I kinda feel I have to include her in the no contact and hoping that he may talk to his mum and she can talk to me x