my ex and i have been broken up for just over a week. there is really no possible way to do no contact with her. she lives directly below me, we go to the same gym at the same time usually, our work hours are the same, our kids go to the same daycare, and we go to the same church. just in the last five days, we have probably ran into each other at least once or twice a day unintentionally, and i even changed my schedule some just to avoid her. it seems like it is inevitable though.
we were very serious and best friends, and then, after an argument, she said we needed to take a break and focus on her. i played the needy card the first two days, and then told her that i wouldn’t initiate any contact with her. like i said, my situation is very tough, if not impossible to do no contact, which is why i told her that i would just let her initiate any contact we have, and so far, she has. we are very nice to each other. no arguing or anything of that nature.
on friday, i went over there to give her the birthday gifts i had ordered for her. she started crying, we hugged and kissed, and i even stayed over there and watched a movie, with her cuddled up on the couch beside me. after that, i went home.
yesterday, she called me when i was asleep and didn’t answer a text, and then came over a few minutes after that. we actually went downstairs to her apartment and took a nap together on her bed.
i also ran into her this morning, and we did the usual thing when we encounter each other. we hugged, talked a few minutes and joked around, then hugged again then we both gave each other a kiss on the cheek. i do not bring up anything about our relationship anymore. she does some, and occasionally we have still exchanged some ‘i love you’s’ but i do not initiate anything.
i’m trying to do a modified version of the no contact. letting her contact me, and when she does, be the guy that she fell in love with. making her laugh and things of that nature and showing her that i’m confident again instead of the needy guy i became at the end of the relationship
any advice? or thoughts on if i should continue what i’m doing or if i should do something differently?