Remember all the things he did not like about you and change them. Practice on improving the bad and get them to the level when you do meet him. He will really think about how much he missed you, loved you and might realize what he did was a mistake. Just hang in there. Do not worry about the bad thoughts. They are betraying you. Watch movies about adventure. About problems that looked impossible but they continue anyways. You are on the right path. Accept the change and dream about the future. What you want to happen. Keep dreaming and eventually your brain will do everything to make sure it happens.
“Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t–you’re right.”
― Henry Ford
I need to clean my house aswell … I recommend some songs while doing home things that’s going to be perfect even it make u tierd but its good to be busy and make things looks so clean right?
@ChrisLovesChris I sent her a message what James gave me … she replayed but i still didnt see her message … it will show to her that i saw it if i click on it so just chilling
@JeanValins she replied?? That’s great! I am so happy for you and I really hope it works out Hearing things like that makes me feel better about my situation…
@JeanValins rebuilding a relationship, rebuilding trust, should take a long time, that is how you build something solid. It’s ok if it takes long. You will have the support of me and everyone else here…
Well it is another morning and my eyes are filled with tears. Day after day of this pain, and with everything reminding me of him. I used to love the mornings…especially early in the morning when everything is so still and quiet. I would stare out through the window into the backyard and it would give me such a sense of peace. Often times also, if it was early morning and I am at my house, it was because I just came home from spending the night with him… that is the real source of my torment. Seeing that same morning light, except with this horrible emptiness inside, with him so far away. I don’t know how I continue each day.
I want to clean my room and bathroom but just now, I can’t…I am just too devastated, all of my motivation has left me
My room is the same … getting worst day after day … it used to be clean when she was around me coz we both were in good mood … but now my head is messdup … i hope everything will get cooler by days and things back better than it was @ChrisLovesChris
I hope so too @JeanValins. I am so happy she unblocked you and is replying to you. You don’t know how much I wish I had the same thing happen for me. For all I know, my ex is gone forever…and the thought of that breaks my heart into a million pieces…
Yeah its a relief but also if u got a chance to talk to him when he event care about u thats will kill u even more so now work on ur self ,. When he back u already stronger than before and u can face it which is i have to do the same too @ChrisLovesChris
@JeanValins That is a good point and you are right. But what makes you so certain he will be back…after all the awful things he said, after how he said I could only make him happy by leaving him alone?
If u keep thinking about this atm even if he is back u will push him away by being so worried … i want u to be stronger look at ur self i can imagine the tears in ur eyes and all he will say is sorry … nothing more coz he will feel bad to make u like this but he wont back becuase of tears … i was crying infront of my ex … she only said i am sorry to hurt u … she took a pity on me … u also better than that dont use pity to make them back … be strong like u always were and I will lend you my shoulder every time u about to fell down
@JeanValins no I deifinitely don’t want to use pity and I don’t want him to see me crying and desperate…but what I mean is how do I even know I will get the chance to ever communicate with him again. What if he refuses to talk to me ever again?? That is the thought that is making me suffer right now. I can’t stop thinking about it.
Yes, the first 3 weeks are bad. Then, the pain doesn’t go away, but kind of numbs. You realize there is other good in the world, much better than just another human being.
I am exactly 30 days of NC with ex today, and do not plan on talking to her. IF you told me that two weeks ago, I wouldn’t believe it. And I’m not saying I don’t want her back, I’m just realizing that I’m not ready yet; I need more time to myself because now I am relatively happy, knock on wood, and don’t know if trying to get her back will help at all. I have a feeling that you’ll experience the same thing!
You won’t stop loving him, but you WILL love yourself enough to not need him. That is certain. So get sunshine, go on walks, be in nature, listen to sad songs, talk to friends, talk to family - do it all! Its not as fast as they make it seem, and it’s not all roses once it’s over, but it’s better
I am cleaning my room but I still feel awful…nothing I do seems to help…I miss him so much and feel like he isn’t even thinking of me. I have put on a TV show but I literally find some way for everything to remind me of him, somehow. But if I shut it off I will be in silence and that will be unbearable as well. I just don’t know what to do.
@YBSM thank you, I guess I will see. I wish I could fast forward, just to see what happens. I’m tired of not being able to sleep, of having weird dreams, of feeling like so much is just off. At the moment it feels like that will never go away…
Well it’s morning, and it’s Valentine’s Day morning to top it off. Why did it have to be on a Saturday. If I was getting up and rushing around getting ready for work, it would possibly be ever so slightly better. Now I am awake, much earlier than I normally am, just sitting here thinking about how I should have been with him this morning…and I should have been with him today… I just hope today ends as fast as possible. I managed to clean part of my room, now let’s see if I can do the other part.
If anyone feels horrible and heartbroken today, feel free to post in this thread… this thread isn’t only about me, it’s about keeping each other company through this… just letting you all know
Hearing things like that makes me feel better about my situation…