Hi,
I’m about to send the letter, i’ve written it up, i’m going to send it slightly before the end of my 30 day NC, but i’ve been extremely rational the past week, and i want to send it to her before easter, my birthday( right after easter) and our old anniversary (right after my birthday), i figure if i send it before all this i’ll have a better sense of closure so i can enjoy myself more. I’m pretty excited to send it, not because i think it’ll work but because it’s going to be my final words where i’m not acting like a lunatic and i want that sense of official non-emotional closure. However, i’m afraid of what she’ll say back, i’ve been so distant, hardly thinking about her, enjoying myself and i’m afraid that after the letter i’ll end up at square 1 again. So basically i’m just looking for thoughts or advice on if i should send it out or not?
I think you should go ahead and send it if you are at a stage of feeling good about yourself and thinking of closure. It would make you feel relieved as well, and I hope you are at a stage where you can handle whatever the response is. Best wishes! 
Okay thank you very much for the input i think i shall send it out
Hi, i hope someone reads this thread, i sent out the letter today, well actually i gave it to a friends of mine who is her colleague and friend, so i know she got it today. I felt like a burden was lifted from my shoulders, it felt good. But now that i know she has it, she hasn’t texted me or anything, i wasn’t expecting much of a response, but i was hoping for at least a thank you for the letter. Like a normal polite person would do if they received a letter, so now i’m getting worried. at first giving the letter felt great, now i feel like it’s driving me mad and making me worse. So i’m not really asking a question just sort of wondering what others did if they’ve ever felt like this.
Yes, it happens like we keep wondering why they have not responded, it could be yes or no. But real reason is that you ex is most probably more confused than you, she doesn’t know what should be replied right now and may take lot of time to answer this, it is quite normal. You should just stay in NC, the ball is in her court and probably you should receive a communication in a week or so, or may be little late. You shouldn’t worry at all by acknowledging their confusion, and keep doing great.
She probably doesn’t know what to say at this time. I know it sucks not knowing what she’s thinking about what you said in the letter. Just be patient and hopefully she’ll respond. Good luck