Hi there people,
would be interested in your opinions.
Short story, breakup was by her, 3 months ago now. I did NC for 6 weeks b/c I had started with that sort of NC where the dumper has to reach out. However then it was her birthday and I broke/ended NC for that reason.
Answer was medium-positive (“Thanks for wishes, nice you got nice memories, sure I won’t come back, let’s focus on the good parts”). Stupidly I took that as a rather bad response, instead of responding after a week I sent an answer composed by a coach who also was following “unlimited NC”.
Stopped that again and went to another coach following a special NC strategy (“advanced” NC with interruptions / “special actions” every 3 weeks or so). Under this strategy sent her an “offense” text telling her I was angry for her having thrown away our relationship, that I respected her decision but that it may be a huge mistake. Answer was as to be expected negative.
Now NC again, plan: Sending her a text asking about how to return some things to her. After that, NC. After that, finally getting to some text conversation.
My coach thinks it’s a good idea according to her experience, and it’s true that right now my ex wouldn’t want to talk anyway, in fact she wrote she moved on and asked me to do the same 
I don’t think she has a new boyfriend though.
Do you think doing more NC may help or should I finally have some real text conversations, more like friends do and would’ve been the way after the first NC?
Thanks,
George