here is the story i you would like to read it.
so i had a text out of the blue asking me if id still like to go and see this play we were both going to see before we split up. of course i said yes definitely, that would be awesome. it is next Wednesday, and i’m extremely nervous. i don’t really know what to think of it.
after that text, she started sending lyrics to songs we used to listen to. like the lego movie song. Everything is awesome, we used to listen to it (sad i know lol) in the car after we’d seen the movie etc, then texting quotes from breaking bad, (the play is called one man breaking bad, its about the show except one man acting out the entire of the show himself on stage). she asked me to get the tickets after a few days and that she would give me the money back when we meet up that day. what do you people make of all of this? i really need opinions and im not sure to think if this is just so she can break the ice and carry on as friends or to actually give things another chance. it has been about a month now since. but i NEED some opinions before i am to go, so i have a clear head.
without sounding desperate, please can someone give a little advice on this!
Hey, so I read your story. I know how badly you want to go and how badly you want to be with her. I do think you should go. Just don’t have too high of expectations, you know? It would be devastating to go into it thinking she wants to be with you then leave and nothing has changed. Definitely go and be an attractive you. Don’t be clingy or ask questions about the future or anything. Just talk and joke around and have fun! If she sees what she likes then you could be on a good track!
Okay. I just have a feeling she will bring up a conversation about us regardless if its to see if we are alright or other things. I’m going to be my confident self and just go as it does. Have a laugh and things. Not make it awkward.
I genuinely am nervous but am unsure what to expect of it. Arghgg
I am hoping all positive things for you! If it were me I would think she has some agenda… Or like… I dunno. Personally I don’t want to be friends with an ex. I will pretend were just friends but that’s because I have my own agenda. There are many things she could have done, like, to preface the entire outing. “I really want us to be friends even if we’re not together.” Say something more you know? And if she really wanted to see the play, it doesn’t have to be with you. But yeah I also am not a fan of being hurt more than I already am. Like healing and feeling okay and then being sucked back into a dead relationship just because oh! It might not really be dead! You’re not alone and I do think you should go, even if it is just to see how you can handle yourself in this situation should it ever arise again.
The thing is, I’m still in the ‘dont understand’ part. Yes I can move on. I have been able to. But when I hear things from others about her, things like, shes bought me some socks??? What the hell is that meant to mean? Why would she go out of her way to do that just a few days after it happened, and why was she so upset for about a week and a half afterwards, when SHE was the one to end it??
It doesn’t make sense. Like I said, I’m happy moving on. I can do it. But when I hear those things and other stuff it makes me feel like it is mixed signals? Who knows. I dont get it. We planned on seing this play before, and her text to me out of the blue was just “still want to see that breaking bad play?”
I’m not going to get my hopes up. But its a very weird situation. This is long story short, if you would like to see it more indepth I have another post all about it in detail. Thanks for your replies by the way
i will let you know what does actually happen though.
so i had another text out of the blue, she started saying sorry she hasn’t kept in touch because shes felt like rubbish the last few days. then she went on to start complaining about the journey she has to work, which is a pain ill admit. and then complained about other things to do with it. the way she spoke she seems very depressed, but i dont know if she is hinting to get a lift or not. either way, i replied a while later saying sorry i was driving (wasn’t really to clarify lol) but because i didn’t really know what to do. should i go pick her up as a surprise or no? what do you think i should do? i dont want her thinking she can have the benefits of a relationship while just being freinds. thats what im scared of and most certainly not the goal. she needs to miss me.
i just feel extremely bad i didnt offer a lift or anything knowing she had to make her own way, maybe thats just me being stupid.