My girlfriend broke up with me about 3 months ago, it was for us both our first relationship, it lasted for 3 years. We are both 22 years old. We never really fought/argued about anything, but we became more like friends the last few months, you know the spark was gone. This was a feeling we both experienced. When we just broke up I told her I wanted to break off all contact for a long period (to work on myself and learn to handle the new situation). She was shocked and really didn’t want to do that. So, (regrettably) I agreed and since we’ve broken up, we keep in touch, occasionally send textmessages to each other and we meet-up about 1 or 2 times a month. When we meet we have dinner or watch a movie and often end up having sex afterwards. For me the feeling of love or ‘spark’ has come back, I want her back. Now, the first times we met (after breakup) she said her feelings for me were diminishing and the last few times she said she has no feelings at all left for me. I don’t think she is lying about that. This confuses me as she still texts me and wants to hang. I do initiate more though, I would say its about 70 to 30. What should I do to get her to regain (atleast some) feelings for me? I feel like its too late for NC because if I do that now she will just definitely move on. But I also feel by occasionally meeting with her she isnt going to get any feelings back either.
You’re giving her everything (dates and sex) without being in a relationship. She needs to feel what it would be like without you. Tell her you’re doing no contact to help recover from the breakup. If she cares about you, she won’t move on permanently.
You were both very young when the relationship started, so both of you might want to date others to compare what you had with each other.