Second Date??

Okay so this whole system on this website has been working for me and I asked him to go catch coffee one weekend but he was out of town then a couple weeks later he asked me out and we hung out. Now this happened on Saturday, today is Monday. For the second date (hoping there is one) do I ask him out or should I wait for him to ask me? And if I should be the one to ask, when, how, and what should I ask him?

@ces2000 - Don’t chase him! Wait for him to ask you out. If he enjoyed the time together, he will most likely ask to see you again.
Good luck:)

@patricia12 what if he’s too shy? When we were together he was sometimes hesitant to ask me to hang out because he thought I would be busy and say no so sometimes I got the feeling that he wanted me to handle planning stuff when it came to hanging out. Maybe I’m just paranoid I don’t know? Any thoughts? Should I still just wait? He was the one that ended it with me by the way.

@ces2000 - He asked you out once, he can do it again. No man is too shy to talk to w woman he likes. What do you mean by he was the one who ended it with you? Were you in a relationship with him at one time? If so, how long and why did he end it?

@patricia12 By that I mean he was the one who said we couldn’t be in a relationship, just friends, and I don’t know the exact reason why he ended it but I think it was because he was going through a lot in his life at the time and to cut to the chase just didn’t really have time for a relationship. We were together for only like 3 months.

@ces2000 - So you were in a relationship with him for 3 months, he ended it and wanted to be just friends?? Most guys don’t end a relationship due to things going on in their lives as that’s the time they want the support of the girlfriend. Also most guys don’t end a relationship due to being busy! They work through any and all obstacles with the girlfriend. Anyway, don’t contact him. Let him be the one to contact you if he wants to…

@patricia12 okay thank you so SO much for the advice! I’m going to wait for him to ask me out and hopefully he does, fingers crossed!:smiley:

@ces2000 - Wondering if he sometimes texts, emails or calls you? If so, don’t continue on and on with replies that might take up too much time from other things he has to do. I’ve heard some girls texting a guy everyday for hours and I’ve heard guys say it’s too exhausting and even irritating. Since you hung out Saturday and today is Wednesday, don’t get too upset or nervous if he doesn’t contact you for a few more days or even a week or so. I know it can be frustrating as each day seems like an eternity! But wait it out and distract your thoughts with other things. I’m crossing my fingers too. Keep us posted as to what happens …