Sad update but....

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Hello to everyone!!how are you?? well as I wrote before some days I sent him the message in which I was telling him if exist love between us, he didn’t rspond…the other day I send him again, and he was online and he was reading them, and no answer, i was sweet but i know it was like being needy…no answer…so i send him ok you know that you are in my mind, whenever you feel and whenever you want…of copurs eno answer…the next day i saw him to be happy with his friends…so i went also out with my friends, i had a good time…I cried because it is hard to see the perosn who wanted to give you the stars to be agaiiin so cold…it seems that he doesn’t want to be with me, (mr_the_ex and patricia12 we had spoke about this in previous posts)

I don’t have hopes, anymore i am not contacting with him, i feel that we will not be again together, I just have a little hope, but I know that he doesn’t want…if he wanted then probably we would be togetehr now…

Ok, he missed me , I tried but he doesn’t want, I mean his behavior shows me that he doesn’t want…there is nothing else to do, i did everything…wish one day to see what he losts or to change his mind…

Anymore I see the days a little better, i mean, being with friends, working and hoping to find someone to love me, ok he is on my mind, but I must continue my life,

maybe as you told me, he loves me but for now he wants to stay far away from me…at least he could answer me and telling me something, it is like he is not respecting me by not answer…

So no contact again, the only problem is that in some weeks i will pass from his citybecause I planed a trip with my friends, i don’t know if I have to tell it him, and to give me informations because I had told him that i will pass from your city…

If i tell him, ok, maybe he will tell me informations because I had never been there, neither my friends, but of course he will be cold…

Anymore really if he wants something, he must contact me, me I am not going to contact with him in a lovely way, i mean i told him everything and no answer, If I contact him it would be for the trip, but I dont know, maybe I will not tell him nothing…

As you told me, if he wants he will contact…

A very big thank you for everything @mr_the_ex and @patricia12 because you helped me to see the situation!!!and to move on in my life and not being in the hell in which I was after break up!!!

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I’m sorry it hasn’t worked out. The good thing is, your heart is full of love so when you find someone who loves you back, you’ll have a great relationship. Maybe he will change his mind, maybe he won’t, but one way or another, you will eventually find what you are looking for.

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@mr_the_ex hello mr_the_ex!!!How are you??me i am still up and down…I have lov ein my heart, but I want being only with him and he is getting on my nerves when he does not want to answer me, in the end we had a relationship…why he does not want to answer me?? Why he does not want to tell me “i don’t want being with you, we divorced, I hate you, I am with other girl” whatever …he is in a silence, he is like to not respect my feelings…his behavior shows me this…

Ok he is a good person but when he is acting like this, what I must think??? I give him space, i played my cards, i followed the plan, I asked him what about us, and stil he is in a silence, I don’t have hopes anymore, I love him, I want being with him, and in the end why to do the likes on social media? Why to give me courage?? When I spoke with him he ws more cold than the weather…he had told me during the breaking period you are the most great person, so now he doesn’t want to answer me?? I told him, whatever you think I must know it also because we were together…

Ok, he missed me, but I am here, I show him again love and still he is not doing a step…i told him I will be here showing you my love, and he??? What he is doing?? Nothing…so if you miss me darling do a step, don’t be in a silence,

What this silence means??? because this silence in my eyes means that I don’t care for you girl, you must go far away from my life and you will take the decision, not me, …this is the meaning in my eyes mr_the_ex…he is not taking the responsibility of anything…

i show him all my love,and in return i am taking just a silence…is not he a person??? Does not have feelings?? WHat he is/?? A mountain without feelings?? Have you ever seen something same mr_the_ex???
Maybe he does not want to make me sad again by telling me that we had divorced, but by doing silence makes me more sad…and I told it him in my last message…tell something, even if you don’t want me just tell it…and again silence…

7 months I was there for him, i was showing him my love, I was trying to not make him sad by going in his hometown because he had told me , I dont want to see us someone, it was not about other girl, it was for personal thoughts, i respected him , I respected all his thoughts, and now he is not speaking me…why??? This “why” is eating my soul…he had told me, that it is not your fault, it’s me…so why now is not speaking me??? why??why??why???

I can’t anymore…really I can’t…ok i am doing everything in my life, working , going out, having fun but his silence breaks my heart and he knows that…

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is there something else to do about him??because I really want him back in my life because I love him so much…I think that I fired everything by telling him that I love him, we had started to speak, but he was cold…as you know…

So now what to do??again no contact???

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Sky…I feel for you…I really do…and I so recognize the concern regarding his silence and desire for contact. As hard as this is…you need to focus on you for a bit. Let him experience your silence. Let him wonder about you instead of you always being there for him. Use this time to really get clear about what you need in a relationship. Take those legitamite needs off of him and see where you can get them met. Perhaps through friends, through your faith, perhaps through giving back. No one person can meet all our needs…regardless of how we center our whole world around them. Claim your value independent of him. And here is the hard part…forgive him for being human and not being there for you the way you were for him. That way you do not build up resentment for what he could not give you.

He may not want the relationship back…that isn’t a reflection on you (although I suspect in your head and heart it will feel like it is) or you value as a person. All it says is he and you were not a good fit for now.

Just a little nugget for you to consider…for women…love is it. It is what we crave and because we crave it…we think that is what men need and then we don’t understand why they aren’t more grateful when we tell them we love them. Men actually need respect more than love. It’s why they are such great protectors and providers. Look for ways that a man respects you and oftentimes…that is how he shows love. Look for ways to appreciate and admire a man in addition to loving him.

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@KR hello KR and thank you so much for your post!!!So it is better to do again no contact, and he to see how it is to not being in his life…in the past when I did it, he showed that he missed me as I had wrote (hope you had read all my story to see what happened in the past)…

As I see you also think that he does not want the relationship for now, so maybe one day he will change his mind…really in my messages I had told him that ok, I respect that you have also feelings and maybe you don’t want being again together, or you are thinking about us, but I love you and I just want to show you my love and i don’t want to tell you all the time if we will be togetehr, I just want to show you my love…

Really we had a great relationship and here it is the “why”…becausethe so much lovley person he became cold, and he became cold after the no contact period, until the no contact he was speaking me a little better, after no contact I was positive and he understood that I love him…but he became now soooo cold…

I focus on myself but in my heart is something that even if I focus on me, this “something” is still on my heart about him…I blame myself, maybe it wasnt good the no contact, but the same time I say to myself "you had to see if he will miss you’…so he missed me…but nothing, whatever I did I ahd the same result…I showed him respect during the relationship and after the breaking up…

but now maybe he will miss me maybe not…I did everything, he knows evverything and it’s time to think also what he wants…(in my head I think he doesn’t want)

after breaking up for almost two months we were spekaing good, then no contact, and now it it just 3-4 weeks after the end of no contact and happened all these things…

we will see…thank you KR for your answer!!! I try being with friends, and to have dates,…