Okay so I started dating this guy for about 2-3 months. We were honestly a perfect match. I started taking birth control about a month in and it had a huge effect on my hormones, moods and over all energy. We didn’t necessarily argue but there was tension that I couldnt control in that state of mind. About a few weeks into the tension he broke up with me. He said he wasn’t ready for a relationship but i knew my mood swings had something to do with it. I was heartbroken that he wouldn’t let me get back to my normal self before calling it quits. I bought him tickets to his favorite comedian and he was going to buy them from me, and we were still going to go and even still hang out. But the I fucked up. He still had some of my things and I had toldd him the day before that I was getting my car inspected right by his house, completely by chance and if he could leave my stuff outside of his apartment then we wouldn’t even have to see each other. He never responded so I went to check and nothing was there. I wasn’t expecting him to be home but he was so I just knocked so I could get it over with. I left to move my car then went back and saw he was out side, I did something absolutely stupid and walked in to his apartment. It was irrational thinking and I knew it was wrong when I did it. I had this idea that bc he walks into my house (I’m roommates with one of his oldest friends), and I use to stay days out of the week there it wouldn’t have been a huge deal, despite being a bit crazy. He threatened to call the cops, which even everyone else said was an over reaction btw. He had a psycho ex that broke a lot of his stuff so that was understandable even though I would never do that. Okay that was pretty stupid right? Well a few weeks go by and I drank quite a bit one night and I still had the tickets that his brother was gonna pick up from me, I sent him horrible messages when I was shit face drunk, I apologized the next day, all without response btw. Everyone told me to just give him time but I was stupid…another dunken night and I still had the tickets. I drove them over to his house and left them on the door step, I had no intentions of seeing if he was home or to even talk to him…the worst thing I did out of all of this is when I was driving home I had gone back and taken the tickets bc I was scared someone was going to steal them and on the way back I realized I was passing his shop…I drove up to the shop and saw a car that looked like his parents, even stupid and drinking while driving I wasn’t about to embarrass myself in front of his parents, I was so indecisive I went back and forth a couple of times but he knew it was me. It’s a family business that doubles as their car shop and it was like 9 at night. I looked creepy asf, I know but I feel like if he saw my thought process and he knew I wasn’t trying to stalk him or even talk to him, just give him the tickets so they were off of my hands…he broke up with me 5 days before Christmas and I had spent a lot of money on the tickets so they were a bit of a sore spot. The heartbreaking thing is we were perfect and I feel like I completely ruined the chance of us getting back together. I honestly think there was a good of chance of it before but now I have no idea and the worst part is I feel completely embarrassed my my friends (his friends and brothers) and I feel like that’s all they’re going to see from me from now on. It’s really upsetting…I don’t even know anymore. This is my first real heartbreak so I know I’m learning but redeeming myself is all I really want. Hopefully focusing on myself will help with that…he hasn’t blocked me and when asked why he said he’s still worried about me? His brother has explained that he really liked me but he thinks I’m crazy now…is there anyway to bounce back from that?
Do no contact and stop drinking and doing crazy stuff. Don’t contact him for at least 30 days. He seems like a nice person, so of course her would be concerned about you, but that doesn’t mean he wants to get back together. After the month ends, let him know you want your stuff back and make arrangements to do that.
Take a friend to the comedy show.
I already got my stuff back. I stopped doing crazy stuff don’t worry. He bought the tickets from me and took his brother…I just need to know if it’s redeemable or not. He’s had ex’s do some crazy things, like hold a knife to his throat, slash his tires and all that stuff. I know I’ve done Stupid things, and landed as a 5/10 on the crazy ex girlfriend scale but I just want to know if there a chance in the future. I don’t even want to see him, I’m so embarrassed but I want another chance in the future.
Maybe you’re not as crazy as his former girlfriends, but the poor guy probably wants a normal girlfriend. Yeah, you have a chance, but you have to stop acting crazy!