Reconciliation with ex-girlfriend's children

Hi, thank you for the great information, it’s been very helpful in sticking to the NC and getting a sense of timing and planning.

My 3.5 year relationship with my girlfriend ended a week ago when she suddenly broke up with me. We are both divorced with kids and live in the same neighborhood. I have accepted much of what she said as my fault and am going to therapy and have joined a gym to get myself in a good place. I was emotionally withdrawn and ‘cold’ without realizing it and want to improve that for future relationships (with her or anyone). The major complication I think is with her 16 ½ year old daughter, who I sense was on the receiving end of when she was upset. I believe now this greatly contributed to the issue and without my being made aware, I didn’t have an opportunity to improve so it continued and the daughter is not seeing me as a positive future presence.

I’m doing NC (although difficult as we will see each other around the area but will limit to smiles and nods and hello) and we have a lot of shared friends on social media. I’m wondering if there’s a uniqueness with the daughter angle and if anything should be handled differently when and if I decide to contact her? I know a big part of any new relationship will be for the daughter to see my positive changes and not just my ex.

@jv0306 - Her daughter is NOT your concern and at this point, it doesn’t matter how she sees you! Continue therapy and limited contact.