Hi, I met up with my ex’s mum yesterday for a coffee etc, it’s been 8 days of NC and she said that he’s become very closed and won’t open up about the break up, and he just goes to work then comes home and sits in his room, when she told him the day before we met up that she was meeting me, apparently all he said was 'remember hannah hates (a certain coffee shop) which I thought was kind of a good sign that he acknowledged her at all when talking about me, and then she said that as she was walking away from him he said that he hadn’t heard from me since last Thursday, which gave me a bit of hope that NC was working, but I so want to talk to him, but Im worried I’ll ruin it all. Is it a good sign that he mentioned he hadn’t heard from me? She also said that she asked him if the break up was what he really wanted and apparently he just shrugged and didn’t really answer…what could that mean?? Please any answer will be greatly appreciated, it’s so nice to get answer from people that understand and want their ex back as well and won’t judge. Thank you.
You shouldn’t break NC, at least not yet! I have been doing NC for 3 weeks now and i can really see a difference in her behavior. She posts sad quotes etc.
Don’t break it yet. It’s working
@gorgeousgirl09 how can you tell it’s working? I really hope it is, but I’m worried about when I have to end NC because he said he would not change his mind, but even in these 8 days I have become a lot more confident in myself, and I’ve been thinking and I can see what was going wrong between us and how we may overcome it, but I’m so worried he’ll put a guard down and won’t hear me out!
You growing in itself shows how it’s working. But he’s depressed, sitting in his room, he misses you, he’s realizing he was wrong. By the end of the 30 days he won’t be stuck in his ways. He’ll be wanting you back
Don’t break it! Be strong and keep going! I wish I could make it 8 days. The most I have ever gone is 6. But I broke that a while go. He texted me first three days ago and of course I replied. We exchanged a few texts and then he just didn’t reply. I was okay with that until today. I really started to miss him and I thought about him talking to another girl and it killed me. I texted him and told him that I missed hanging out with him. That was a couple of hours ago and he hasn’t gotten back. I don’t think he will. But don’t break NC! You’ve made it this far.
I really really want to talk to him, I dont want to wait 30 days because I’m scared he’ll think I don’t ever want any kind of relationship again…I just want to talk to him
Stay strong, the more NC you do the stronger you will feel.
I’m on day 7 NC with not a peep from him. I have times where I’m desperate to email him, you’ve no idea. Something inside me stops me and then I feel good that I’ve over come the urge. If I make contact I will have wasted all that time. 30days at the end of the day is not a long time. I’ve done one week, just 3 more to go.
If I know my ex, he probably is thinking about me a lot, I don’t know in what way though obviously. He’s probably looking at his phone anticipating a message but it never comes. That will lead to curiosity and one day that will over come and he will make contact… I hope!
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me and my gf had broke up by my fault. I left her 5months ago. after 5 months she completely changed as she hates me to even talk…I begged her several times but it gone more worst. she clearly told me to leave her alone she didn’t want me to be in her life anymore…is there still chance to get her back and if yes than how much…is NC works in my case or I have to first try to be her normal chatting frnd and then have to do some efforts…please advice me asap
I broke NC. I went round his to collect my stuff, I found out that he has really strong feelings for this other girl, he claims the feelings only started about a week before he broke up with me, but feelings that strong couldn’t of happened in a couple of weeks, he was telling his friend how he wanted her to go out with him so badly, but she doesn’t want to ruin their friendship and stuff. So I talked to him about that, he was so cruel to me, which Ive never seen him like that, and he said it because I wasnt a special person to him anymore so he won’t treat me nicely, and he has also thrown away every sentimental thing I’ve given him, he threw them all away as soon as he broke up with me…this hurt me so much, the thought of all the sentimental and important things being in a dump somewhere…so I think it’s over, it doesn’t even seem like NC can change his mind, can he really just be over me straight away? He was so heartless, and now I guess she’s special to him. I asked if he loved her, and he just said that he couldn’t love someone he wasn’t with, I dis agree with that but I don’t know…