So, I posted on here a while ago during the early days of non-contact, and I got good advice, so here is me fishing for more cos it was very helpful 
Ok, for those of you who don’t remember me, the short version of the long convoluted break story was: she wasn’t completely over her (abusive) ex fiance, I had issues with a previous partner as well (her life was in jeopardy & I ended up having to sort that out), & we generally didn’t have much time for each other. I engaged in non-contact, like the good book said, for just under 30 days and this is what happened next:
So I eventually broke radio silence about a week ago, when I sent her a typical good reminder text, didn’t get an immediate response, ended up calling her number that evening, which went to voice mail, not a good sign…dejectedly started cooking some dinner, and then suddenly, surprisingly, my phone rang. Turned out she’d got this text message and missed call, but didn’t know from whom exactly as she’d not saved my number (though from the wording she suspected it was me), asked if she could call me back in 20 minutes as she’d just sat down to dinner with friends…about 10 minutes later she did call me back, and we proceeded to have a really pleasant chat and a catch up for about half and hour.
We didn’t talk about the break up, getting back together, or anything negative, it was just a really nice conversation between two people. She asked me how I was, I said I was fine, and talked about some of the things I did over the last month e.g. visiting family in France, going to my friend’s wedding, going to events, quitting smoking etc. She talked about similar things, as well as some of the difficulties she’d been having, eventually I ended the conversation when one of my friends started texting me…all in all a good result considering how only 40 minutes earlier I was convinced I’d never see or speak to her ever again.
Over the last several days I’ve kept in semi regular contact. She didn’t answer either of the two text messages I sent her (albeit they were more updates/‘hope everything’s going well’ texts rather than requests for information). She did respond to both phone calls I made though, one was last Friday, and she did seem colder than before, but in her defense she was very tired (not having had much sleep recently), and very ill. Oddly enough, she twice in that fairly brief conversation mentioned how lonely she’d been recently living on her own…I’ve tried not to read too much into that. The second was on Sunday. I was at a 3 day event, and the Saturday was extremely stressful. Basically it was a hot day, and people were working very hard, and I had to deal with about 5 people who had collapsed from heat exhaustion. I told her all about it, whilst trying to put a comedic spin on it (cos let’s face it, it was a pretty absurd situation), rather than, you know, whining about it. I figured if nothing else, it was an opportunity to remind her about how I’m not exactly useless during a crisis.
I tried calling her around mid day today, and it went to voice mail again, which I guess means she’s busy (at least I hope that’s what it means…trying not to second guess or over analyze things), I’ll probably try again this evening. All in all, I guess the situation is not terrible, but there are some things which still worry me…
So far, I’m still the only one really reaching out here. She’s responded, but she’s not been the one to text or to call at any point. She is definitely not the one chasing me. That does worry me. On the other hand, at least she’s not saying ‘let’s be friends’ or worse, ‘go away, I never want to see you again’. If I were to hazard a guess, I’d say she is probably a bit torn and confused about what she wants at the moment. She was in pieces when she broke up with me, saying things like: ‘you were everything I wanted in a relationship, I just can’t be in a relationship right now’. I’ve given her time and space, and now she’s had some head space, and a lot of the things that were bothering her are now behind her…nevertheless, she’s a proud woman, who I can’t see demeaning herself by chasing after me, not after what happened with the ex fiance (she chased him after her dumped her and it didn’t go well)…difficult one…I don’t envy her!
What do you guys think? Any help would be appreciated…