Okay so I am one week into the NC rule and I am having doubts and questions. I’ve already put my story out there but i dont know where To find it for you so I’ll summarize it up. Me and my (ex)boyfriend were together for 2 years. He broke up with me about a month and a week ago because he said our relationship became to stressful and he wasn’t all that happy anymore. I understood and I now know everything I need to change if we were to get back together. I know what I did wrong. At first we were friends then I texted him too much and questioned him too much and I pushed him away. He wanted to go a month of no contact. At the time I didn’t know the NC rule was a thing. Well our period of no contact was actually only about 2 weeks and in the first week I texted him once and he texted me once. I finally found this website and decided to try the NC rule. Today has been a week. I’m having doubts that it won’t work. I have made positive changes in my life and I feel happier but I know I still want him. Everyone talks about “what do I do if he contacts me”. I fear that he won’t try to contact me. Does that mean something if he doesn’t try contacting me? I feel that the no contact is getting rid of the negative associations with our break up but I can’t help but to wonder if he is missing me? I know he is enjoying his time with friends and being single but I seriously can’t stop thinking of him and everything reminds me of him and makes me miss him. He must feel this way too a little bit right? My main questions are does it mean something if he doesn’t try to contact me during the NC period, do you think he is missing me a little, am I just giving him time to move on or is it time to miss me and want me back, do you think he is thinking about me? I just have all these thoughts and I need someone else’s advice and thoughts. Thank you.
Hi Taelor, I found your other posts. If you click on your name where you sign in or click on your name on the left of your post, it will take you to a page listing the topics you started (click that). Of course he’s missing you because you were together a while, but that doesn’t necessarily mean he wants to get back together. You pestered him too much and he wasn’t happy in the relationship anymore. No contact gives you time to focus on yourself to make changes, not just for him, but for any self improvements you might like to make. It also gives him time to calm down from the stress he was feeling in the relationship and reconsider things. If he doesn’t contact you within the month of no contact, you won’t know if he wants to keep the break up or not. If you don’t hear from him, you could send a light hearted email or text, but don’t discuss your break up unless he wants to. Later, he may want to discuss it, but right now he’s too upset. Take it slow and easy… Hope everything works out for the two of you.