Well I broke the NC rule I haut missed him so much I was hurting inside and to my surprise he told me he’s with a man. So many things add up now fights the lack of sex him. I actually feel sad for him that he couldn’t be himself. But super mad that he used me and my children while he was figuring out his sexual orientation he imprinted On me in my kids memories and moments that we have forever. So I am a little mad but relived too. How can I compete with the man? I can’t now I can move on.
i know what you mean but in some circumstances he is genuinely confused and might want even to be with you but at same time he wanted you to know what behinds the seen
well he made it very clear we are never going to be together ever again. and even said it makes it easier for him to choose this cause of me which i know is more of his false hope crap he pulls all the time making it seem like its me not him.i told him we can work this out even stay friends.
see try to pull back and apply no contact if you ok with his sexuality … if not you deserve to be better with a man who devote himself truly to be with and your lovely kids.
Yes that’s what I’m going to do. I do feel bad for him and happy for him at the same time I will always miss our friendship so I hope time heals and we will be friends cause he was a somewhat of a great guy when not confused lol
haha … well he might be bissexual not simply gay… so who knows what will happen next. nothing is permanent.
@Nora yes he could be gay or bi-sexual but I think in this stage rather than say to @Bethyseeu to keep hope up she needs to think if she is okay with bi-sexual partner? Because that poses couple of different risks for her and if there was already issues with sex than why would she put herself through having unsatisfactory sex life when she could have a good one with someone else who is dedicated only to her? Did he tell you that he is gay or did he say bi-sexual? If he said he is gay than he is and good for him finally realizing it but then this is well and truly lost cause as boyfriend. It is good that you want to be just friends in the future because he most likely was with you because you are a good friend to him, he enjoyed being with you and I am sure he loved the family circle you had, he simply could not give you the kind of love you deserve to have which exist between two true partners who love, respect and want one another. So I am glad you are looking at this moving on because your priority should be you and only you and your kids right now. Leave him to figure out what he needs for himself. Good luck.
I totally agree with you… he sure misses the family, move on you deserve the best… you might keep him as a friend so whenever you talk or see him you not feel hurt you assure yourself he didn’t leave me for another woman he only try to figure out what he wants and respect it. Always remember there is plenty more fish in the sea… we only need to be ready for a good catch. I know how you feel just keep positive x
@Nora, I honestly feel you give really bad advice to a lot of people on this board. There have been more than a few times where you are advising the person to do something totally against what the situation calls for. Agreeing with Finntoga on her post. With that being said, when a guy states his sexual preference that is permanent. There is no let’s wait around and see if he goes from gay to straight like Nora stated. No amount of NC will change this situation and its good to see that Bethyseeu realized that. I hope you find a great partner, a guy that will give you the kind of relationship you deserve Bethyseeu.