Yes, my friend’s bf is a tool for what he did! Still not sure what to do about this all but I’m taking everyone’s opinions into account! Thank you for yours! I’m worried she will never trust her bf around me again so our friendship will be lost. Perhaps that’s selfish of me though.
Yeah, I’m doing the 30 days, and perhaps longer. I’ve gotten better at not stalking him. Not doing that definitely helps! But requires some real discipline at times…
Thank you for your encouragement! I do hope he comes back around. I know the stupidest thing I could do would be to break NC after this, so I just have to sit back and wait for him to make the next move.
Yes I’ve signed up to the emails! I love reading them, and look forward to them. It’s such a great thing!
Regarding your update:
I’m SOOO thrilled for you that the NC worked and that you’ve got him chasing you again!
I’m also happy that you’re not jumping right back in again, you’re showing him your value by not being over eager to get back with someone who hurt you so much.
I do believe he would wait around and be on hold forever if you continue what you have been doing to allure him. Him saying that is just an empty threat - I believe. Don’t negotiate with it, and make sure you get what you want out of this. Put yourself on the pedestal, but also make sure you’re rewarding him for his efforts. What we think we may loose we value much higher than what we have. And when we think we’re about to loose something we act in a way that isn’t alluring. What allures them is us being sure we will be ABSOLUTELY FINE with or without them this intrigues them and they want to challenge it. They may challenge it by going in the opposite direction and saying “okay then fine” but that won’t last long. They’re just seeing if you will chase them back. That’s what I have come to believe anyway!
I don’t think you messed anything up by talking about your friend. There’s nothing wrong with that and nothing happened between the two of you. I also don’t think there’s anything wrong with installing a bit of fear in him after he abandoned you!
I’ll be excited to hear how your next meet up goes! As for family, they want you to be happy. If you sit them down sometime and explain that he truly makes you happy, I don’t think they would go against it?
You’re not a scared spinster lol! It’s understandable that you feel scared now that you have finally attracted him back. You got part 1 of what you wanted and you are terrified of going back to where you were or not getting a good part 2. You’re afraid of making one wrong move.
I don’t think you should be. I think you should be confident in your ability to attract him and others, and feel that knowing feeling inside you that says the universe will provide you with everything you desire! Have trust, be confident in yourself, and do not let yourself be driven by fear.
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