Hello everyone,
So my ex and I broke up just over 2 months ago, after the break up I engaged in the no contact rule. I did it for about 5 or 6 weeks. After the 6 weeks, she messaged me to come over and grab a video game one day! She came over and we talked in her car for a bit and then came inside and we ended up spending 3 hours together! Even slept together! I walked her to her car and she hugged and kissed me goodbye. She even said don’t be afraid to message me!
So We’ve been hanging out for a bit and things seem to be going good, we’ve cuddled, had sex, we kiss goodbye every time we part ways! Then the other day, I asked her to go to a hockey game with me, and she said she didn’t know and that she didn’t really want to be hanging out this much right now! We’ve talked and we both came to the agreement that we don’t want a relationship right now (which I actually don’t want to be in one for a bit), she also said that she was having a lot of fun hanging out, but she is scared were going to rush back into things. So she said let’s be friends at first and see where that goes! To me it seems like she’s catching feelings again and she’s catching them fast and she wants to slow them down a bit!
So anyways, we ended up going to the game that Friday and we had a really fun time, we were flirting (she started it), having fun, laughing, joking etc. Everything was going really great! I should mention that we are both on dating sites, and she kept bringing things up from her dating site, but she kept telling me that she hasn’t met up with any of them and that she just does it because it’s funny. Then on the drive home she mentioned that her sister in law convinced her to join POF, and then I got a message from a girl that I met on there and she started asking me about this girl. Then she goes “wait, nvm the less I know the better.”
So, I don’t know why she feels the need to keep bringing this things up, as I’ve told her many times I don’t care who she messages or talks to. But she keeps reminding me that she’s on them. Anyways, well we were at the hockey game, she asked me if I’d be interested in putting together a co-ed hockey team to play in tournaments, and she also started asking me about my hockey and when I play and hinted at possibly coming to watch me!
So, we get home, we were sitting in my car and we were both really hesitant to get out and say goodbye and she looks at me and I look at her and she asked “what’s on your mind?” and I said do you really want to know, I honestly want you to come in and hangout for a bit, and she seemed really excited that I asked.
So, she came in and then after about 5 mins, she got really moody and I asked what was wrong and she said that “I started feeling the old ways of our relationship and I don’t want to get sucked back in to that.” So, I said there is nothing I can really say to you to prove that we won’t go back to our old ways. So, she stayed for about an hour and then left. We kissed goodbye (even though, she doesn’t really want intimacy right now, she wants us to build up to that). So, I asked afterwards, how often do you want to hangout. She said that she only wants to hangout once in a while (once every week or 2). I’m not sure what to do at this point, I feel like she wants a relationship, but at the same time, I feel like she’s very hesitant!
I should also state, that I have lost a great deal of weight, finally got my driver’s license, and made some other improvements in my life!
Just wondering what I should do at this point? I feel like I should just continue what I’m doing, but I’m also scared of pushing her away again!
Thanks in advance!