Right I was with my boyfriend for a year and a half and we had our ups and downs and still stayed together but then it came to an end nearly 5 weeks ago I broke up with him cause I just got sick of trying to fix things. I then stuck to the no contact period and I contacted him then after 30 days and told him I was sorry for my behavior from before and that I had some news but couldn’t tell him as I was busy at the time.
He then messaged me backing saying that he never wants me to contact him again as he has meet someone else who treats him proper and he is happy so goodbye.
I was devastated and just messaged back okay bye I just did not know what else to say. Like I knew he meet someone not even 2 weeks after we broke up he started seeing him, as we were still friends on facebook and snapchathe posted up pics of him with this guy. Then after that weekend he removed me from both accounts now it must be stated he didn’t block me he just removed me as a friend from both.
And now just coming up on 5 weeks he has put up on his facebook that he is in a relationship with the guy he meet only 2 weeks after we broke up.
I need some advice I honestly don’t know what to do and I’m just so hurt over it all.
Just a little update he rang me a coupe of days later after he sent that message saying sorry for the message he sent then he asked me what the fantastic news I had and I told him the changes I’m making to my life now and I just said I hope we could contact each other again and maybe meet for a coffee sometime.
He then said that he would say it to his new guy first see what he thinks then not even 24 hours later he rang me back. He said that his new boyfriend is leaving it up to my ex if he wants to be friends with me or not or stay in contact with me but that my ex’s new boyfriend wouldn’t sit at the same table as me or even shake my hand.
So my ex says he decided to leave it and that we won’t be in contact or that and I just said before we said goodbye that I hope we can get in contact in the future and be friends and he just said we will see.
So I think now I’m just going move on with my life now and maybe contact him in the new year just wish him a happy new year so that he doesn’t forget about me completely. What do you guys think I should do?
I am just looking for a bit of advice from people on what I should do please.
Hi Jamie, He won’t forget you because you were together a long time. However, he has a new boyfriend and he doesn’t want contact from you. When he said, “We will see”, he was being polite. Please consider moving on and don’t contact him again. Not even on New Years. If he ever wants to get in touch, he knows how to contact you. If the relationship with the other guy fizzles out, he may want to reconcile, but maybe not. Too many unknown factors here for you to dwell on needlessly. I know you’re hurting, but try to do other things you enjoy and focus on yourself. Some might say if you can stay absolute no contact until the end of the year, it wouldn’t hurt to contact him to wish him a Happy New Year and see what happens from there. Go with whatever your mind and heart are telling you. Wish you the best…
thanks for the advice appreciate it a lot and I am going to move on with my own life now I even have my own date organised for next week and I am not going to contact him at all I might contact him in the New Year but I will see how things go for my self thanks very much for the advice.