Hi everybody,
Firstly, sorry my english. I’m from Brazil.
My ex girlfriend has depression, family and financial problems, I believe this caused the break. Me and my ex girlfriend have been together for 3 years. I’ve read many articles and watched a lot of video content on these things, and I can tell that this is largely an excuse because of the loss of attraction. The three bases of relationships are attraction, connection and fidelity.
In the first month we hooked up twice. But my jealousy caused a argument, and I decided to make NC.
I was too attached to her, and that was a problem. 69 days ago I started doing NC, but she sent me a text on the 45th to wish me a happy birthday, she was super sweet, I just thanked her, I wished she had a good time and I said goodbye. The other week she unlocked me from instagram, The other week she unlocked me from instagram, and on the 60th she stalked me and “like” my last photo (we are not added), I believe this is a shit test. But it is gradually approaching. I hope she’ll talk to me soon, I stand firm in the NC.
At that time of 60 days in NC, I went to the gym every day, I traveled, I made tracks, I jumped on bungee jumping, I improved my appearance, I bought new clothes and perfumes, I took a course that I wanted and I took many pictures of trips and trails . On the 40th I started posting these photos once a week. It seems to have worked, because of her gradual approach.
Do you guys think I should “like” something of her in instagram? or should I keep quiet doing my things. I want to better myself and appear to her “by chance” somewhere, physically better, with a beard and new look, so I need another month for that. But at the same time I feel like I’m ready to talk to her.