@Rahul Yes I understand what you are saying. My Ex seems to be afraid that I will lecture her and fall out with her again, but she seems to have nearly all of the power and so continually seems to want to pull my triggers.
This is why I have doubts if she can even remain friends with me. We only seem weeks away from another bust up at best. I wonder if it is her testing me but I am not so sure and am scared of opening up and allowing her to hurt me again.
I don’t know what is the best move for me to make and I hate feeling this way.
this is my 4day of Nc, she yet didn’t message me nor unblock me in whatsapp…may be she is forgetting about my negatives points…as she already forget about our positive in relation…I am just hoping as she’ll message me one day …
its really hard to be in NC. everyday I wakeup with a dreams of her some times its good and sometimes it scares me by leaving me alone…I really need some advice please help me
@rahul Try and keep yourself busy my friend. It will get easier for you after two weeks. That is until she contacts you of course. If she does contact you then don’t message her back and try to see out your 30 days or how ever much NC you initially planned.
If she seems ready to talk after NC then apologise for taking this time out but be sincere and say that you needed some time to focus on yourself for your own peace of mind and health. Personalise your message so it tells a story about yourself.
If your Ex is really ready to talk then she will apologise too, although the first message or two you receive may be indifferent, emotional or angry. Don’t focus too much on what she says but just that you and her are in contact again.
@sparky,
thanks for you words it really help alot. this is my 6day of NC, and now I feel okay…her birthday will be on 22january. is this good idea to meet her on her b’day…or I have to do something else…please advice, I think she is forgetting me slow and slow as time goes on…
@Rahul So the 22nd January would be the 23rd day of NC for you right?
It’s a difficult one. NC is basically there to make you feel better about yourself so that you are not so needy or emotional when dealing with your Ex in future.
I do not know whether you should contact your Ex on her birthday or not but you certainly shouldn’t be trying to arrange to meet her on that day.
I would take your lead from whether she contacts you before then. If she does then juat send her a message saying happy birthday and you hope that she is enjoying/has enjoyed her day.
You may be able to send this message on her birthday even if she hasn’t contacted you before then and go straight back in to NC for another week or so.
Don’t appear too much of a walk over to her. Let her know that you care but don’t let her think that you will be there for her anytime ahe wants (backup plan).
Good luck with whatever you decide to do and keep me updated on your progress.
thanx sparky,
now I am feeling much good after 7days of NC, Its really help me get all my image back which I lost in during these periods…now I am not feeling desperate or needy …but still I have to improve on me some more to be perfect by my view…apart from this, she didn’t messaged me yet after 31st December. may be she is busy with her own work or with someone…my only wish is that I don’t want to loose her unconditional love for me…may be she still hates me…and yeah I asked for her bday because I’ll be in her city on 22jan. so that I think if its great to meet her on her bday and make her feel great what do you think…give me advice
I have the same lines that you mentioned below and I tried every possible things from last 6 months to get her back.It can be giving her cards,sorry 1000s times,gifts,flowers etc but she didn’t even bug and very stubborn of not coming back to my life.She chased me for approx. 2 years to get married and now I have been chasing from last 6 months and she is cold,ignorant,non communicative,hates me etc.
Oh by the way now I am trying to do NC and today is my 13th day and its hard but we got nothing to loose right ?
I really don’t know what will happen to my situation,just very hopeless but will know after NC
You said :-
she really hates me
she’s very much angry with me and don’t want to talk.
3.she never miss me a single moment even if she is online in any messenger
4.she don’t want to forget all the bad moments held in past.
5.she filled with all negativity about me…and get irritated with me.
here is the new twist her sister also block me on whatsapp…I don’t know why,we didn’t chat after xmas so suddenly why she blocked me…can anyone tell me what do you think whats the reason behind this…
sparky really need your advice
@kalicooldude
I really don’t understand how she forget me as she loved me unconditionally. .I dont think my feelings towards her will be diminish…I don’t know what will happen after NC,this is my 10th day. and I don’t think any thing can change our situation… whenever I misses her I only thought if I loose her so she also loose me…and its impossible to forget the memories of your love life…so 1day she’ll definitely miss me…and that’s the only gift of my this my pain…I hope we both get our love soon I really love her…
@malinda
I know she is angry with me because I left her alone 5months ago and take 2month to come again and contact her…that’s why she hates me and angry with me…and now she moved on by lefting me alone with all our memories back
@rahul it maybe because of it was unbearable and miserable and so painful for her when you left her, thats the anger…give her some space and try to be patient and continue being kind
yes you are right it was really painful for her. and I am giving her space as I am in NC for 10days. hope soon she will realize my love for her…but this time she totally forget about me and happy in her own life
No I think she will just realise and will be curious what happened all of a sudden that you cut contact with her…then maybe will start to think positive things…
Its really funny the way how I think and speak wise about one another’s situation while I’m having hard time with mine and thinking all negative.
@malinda
its not going to happen that she’ll curious to know about me. I know her well she never come back after breakup so why she come after this…I really wishes. …I loved a girl who really want me to be her…do you know she never told me whenever I hurt her…she never share her hurting emotions with me…its not only my fault for breakup…she was also responsible