I need some motivation to not break NC. My ex sent me a text yesterday asked me how I am doing? I didn’t break NC rule, although it has been very tempting. I thought about writing him a letter, but instead the letters turn out to be more like journal venting entries. I need some advice or ideas to get my mind off the temptation of breaking NC. It’s day 4 for me and that honestly feels like I’m succeeding at something. I just want my ex to know how much he broke my heart and how much I HURT. But i don’t want to be viewed as weak. Advice or helpful hints from anyone?
Well, I had gone through it and can understand totally! Your NC is working and right now you should rather focus on yourself and not think of ex - they must have started realizing your worth now but let your ex wonder more. The hurt will be healed with time and you need to think how wonderful it would be to be happy for yourself, it was being you attracted your ex and temptation of letting ex know what they did will go away soon. DO NOT contact your ex at all unless you feel happy for yourself, and keep doing what you are doing. Best wishes.
if he reaches out again just text him, that u need time for urself and thats it. U are beginning of NC and u did great by not responding to him! before u break the rules of NC alway keep in head that u have made some days already and remember urself always that u will have to tart all over again from day 1 if u break NC. Do what makes u hapy, focus on urself and ur imrpovement. it will get easier and if u handled yesterday this good u can make another 26 days. never think abd about NC, but think about how u will imrpove and such.I strongly suggest u reach out to ur ex after u are emotinally stable and happy with urself without him.
my situation with NC was pretty bad at beginning i broke it after 2 weeks and then a week later and i got ignored. and then 10 days later for his bday i wished him HBD he said thanks, i asked for coffee he ignored. then for new year i decided to really not contact him and i made NC for 55 days. i reached out and got a response in a official and friendly matter but he refused for what i asked him. now we are friends for 2 weeks and since yesterday we are unoficial friends with benefits. i know the plan says not to do that, but i am happy with how things are right now and i will wait for him to want us to be together again and give it another shot. If not well then… at least we will keep in touch and have each other for our needs.
I wish u the best of luck and stay strong!