My Situation

reconciliation
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Hello all, I’m less than three days off of a breakup. It happened right after Thanksgiving. Here’s my situation.

My ex and I were together for almost two years. We lived about an hour apart, which wasn’t a big deal. The first year went great but the second year things changed.

I got another job coaching and I let it take over my life. I started to take my ex and the relationship for granted. I didn’t visit her for almost two months, despite the fact she came and visited me. I lost the spark for her, but I still loved talking to her and communicating. We had it out earlier and we both said we’d work on things, but I didn’t change at all. I was just happy that she didn’t break up with me then.

Fast forward a couple weeks to thanksgiving, we had an okay time but she told me that she had given up hope on me to make her feel wanted. She told me I had a lot of potential but she was exhausted from trying to make me make her feel wanted. She told me she was done.

I apologized to her and told her I needed to work on myself. I told her that she was the best gf I’ve ever had, that I’d made a mess of things. She said she was sorry too, and that I definitely needed to work on myself. I’ve been no contact since then.

I am feeling overwhelmed. I took her for granted. Obviously I feel like I want her back. I’m accepting that our old relationship is over but I still feel terrible. I’m working out daily and looking into therapy. I really want to improve, it’s just hard right now because we communicated every day and she was the right fit for me.

Thanks for reading.

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@bobbysutra - Continue no contact and she will probably miss you. After 30 days, try to have a calm discussion about what you will do differently if she would consider reconciliation.
Good luck.

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It’s been six days of NC. It’s been very difficult, lot of ups and downs. I’ve been in therapy for about six days now, talking to a counselor to work on my issues and been exercising. I deleted my ex from snapchat because of that stupid snapmap thing where you can see where they are. I don’t want to see where she is on the weekends or any day for that matter.

It’s a struggle to think I won’t try to talk to her until after the holidays. I’m worried that she’ll have moved on by then, or been resolute in the fact that she doesn’t want to get back together.