I guess your job is near city centre. Another possibility is that you could get a male roommate.
I don’t want to be in that situation to be honest, I had the idea of that already.
A usual quick update: I was at a client and decided to go out for lunch with colleagues. Sitting at the table someone says hi to me. It was her. 1 minute quick talk why are we at the same place (she had some meeting to the office building next to my client’s) and then we sat apart. Two days later she checks in with me whether a beach towel is mine or not. I did not confirm it being mine but she said she will hand them over some day… aaand she went for an adventure trip (ziplining etc.) I was trying to plan for last summer
Do some limited casual contact, but only if she contacts you first.
Turns out she went there with the guy she’s now with from work. So I don’t what is she doing or what she wants as I had left some gadgets, steam machine etc. deliberately there as I couldn’t use them, why a freaking towel would trigger this… I haven’t contacted her since she replied to my mail the way she did.
I don’t really want to end up in a friendzone, but on the other hand I don’t know what would hurt more, ever seeing her again or never seeing her again.
My 2 cents is… if you are wondering whether you will hurt more, seeing her again or never seeing her again, then it will hurt more to see her again. At some point you won’t need to ask yourself that question. That’s the point it won’t hurt to see her again.
The amount of time is totally variable and depends on the person and relationship. It can take years to get to that point. But you will know when you are.
Long time no see here but things -not particularly good things though- happened. She contacted me in sept. with things related to the apartment we were living in (how this and that was arranged etc.) when I was about to go on a business trip and she seemed excited on where I’ll be going. In the hotel the amenities provided were from one of her favorites lol. Came back, a week later she called me that her grandfather passed away, and she wanted to let me know. Then she asked if I could cheer her up, talk about something positive and we did. Few weeks after I saw she attended a wedding together with his BF (so it’s now serious). In the meantime her father contacted me with the computer I gave him and I couldn’t fix it remotely so I went to her parents. I talked with her mom for a long time we are on good terms and she needed some distraction from her loss. She gave the stuff she wanted to return to me to her mom so I got them that way. That was in early november. Haven’t heard anything from them since.
Meanwhile I have tried dating but nothing came out of it. Maybe its me maybe I chose poorly but still noone to connect to which is what I mostly miss.
@robertv What does this mean?“Few weeks after I saw she attended a wedding together with his BF (so it’s now serious).”
Is she still dating her co-worker?
Did you find your own apartment?
Don’t give up on dating. It takes time to find someone special…
Yes she is but I don’t see that much FB activity of her (thankfully?). Apt wise I’m/we’re still trying to figure out how to get the best out of the situation. I don’t want to live in the subs but neither want to fuck up their plans if they have any but that is a whole another story… I don’t want to give up you know it just gets exhausting telling all these people what/who exactly am I ?