Hi,
So my ex and I were together for over 2 years, and have had a thing for eachother since we were kids. We couldn’t date as we were always in other relationships until finally 2 years ago. We got together. We have so much history it’s insane. With that being said, we got into a fight and I said I was done, not done with the relationship, but done with the conversation. He took this the wrong way and held this against me. We didn’t have the best communication with our feelings and I regret this now so bad. If we would of just been honest about our feelings, things would of worked out.
I thought this was just another one of our fights because he continued to act like we were together. Until one day he asked when I’d be moving back to my old place. This shocked me, so I said " I didn’t know we weren’t together" I was confused. He said you broke up with me and I’m holding it there. Who says that? With that being said it took me a 2 weeks to get my stuff organized and be able to move out. So we talked still, still slept together and made me feel sometimes as if I should hold on.
But claimed it just wasn’t going to work between us. Not even a month before that he was talking about kids and marriage soon with me? Uh wtf. Also, I could tell in the two weeks he was messaging a girl a lot. One he’s known for years, and believed this was the reason he wouldn’t give me a second chance. ( yes, I made the stupid mistake of sitting on his bedside hoping we’d get back together and apologizing for everything over and over " and he kept saying, I wish you would of been this honest through the v relationship. I kept saying, I’m going to now if you give me that chance, I want you in my life, and if better communication is what will fix that, im so down. But he wouldn’t budge, I knew it was because he wanted to see where it would go with this other girl. Because he did say I need time away from you to miss you and clear but head.
So finally I asked " your talking to another girl aren’t you? " here explained he met up with her a few times in the past two weeks and she seems like a sweet heart etc. Like I cared to know what she is like? Seriously. So I stopped him there. Packed my shit and got out. All the hot and cold signatures m signals were torture after everything we’ve been through, than finding out that was the icing on the cake. We’ve been broke up for a total of 3 weeks as of now and clearly he started talking to her immediately after. He said this girl had liked him for a long time and he had no interest in her until now. Makes me sick. So after I moved my shit out, I was having a hard time wrapping my head around things and my best friend seen that. So she wanted to call him so she would know where he was at with his feelings for me so she could help be hold on our move on.
That’s strictly why she called. She said to him, tell me what VB your thinking because I need to help my friend, she’s a mess. He replied “I love her so much, and always will, I’ve just been asking for my space so I can clear my head etc. And that there’s still hope for us” she said ok but I don’t think it’s in your best interest to talk to this other girl as it becomes a distraction on thinking and possibly fixing things with my best friend " he agreed, and said he wants to think about me and this and he wouldn’t be talking to her anymore until he cleared his head.
She told him ok, I want you to know that I will be repeating this to my best friend, so she understands where you’re at. And he said that us completely fine thanks for this" the next day, my exes bff messaged me new years night saying how I should be here and it’s not right without me here. I knew he was hinting that the “new chick” was there. (This was new years night, and the following day mY friend had this talk with him). What the hell? I’m annoyed. I poured my damn heart out. And he lives up the street.
I found out she stayed the night there, and again last night. The sick part is she’s been hiding her truck behind his house. He had no reason to lie to my friend, she specifically made it clear she was calling to get the answer whether it was good or bad to guide me in the proper direction. Why lie? Thi literally 2 weeks after our relationship? This is completely out of character for him. As he asked me the other day to please not go dating people right away in our small town because he just couldn’t bare seeing it. He’s making everyone uncomfortable. I think he’s not using his head. Alot of my stuff is still there and texted yesterday saying I need my shit, I’m not playing games. No reply. I love him with everything, and really did not expect this from him at all.
If I pulled this shit, he’d lose it. (My friend messaged asking if she could swing by to pick my stuff up and that he proved his sick point, he replied saying “I proved my point? You told Tiff our conversation and said I loved her, that’s not cool” ) I know it was actually said, because I was there? What’s going on with this idiot? 2 weeks and he’s already having this trashy bitch staying at his house two nights in a row? Rebound much, he was just crying to me about everything and sleeping with new 4 days ago!