Hey everyone my girlfriend of two years left me about a week ago and I couldn’t be more devastated, but somehow she is out having the time of her life and this kills me. Don’t get me wrong I want her to be happy but it seems like she walked away from this relationship unscathed while I can still barely eat. Another thing is I am not blocked on anything that I could have contacted her with and I’m scared that when the time comes I won’t even be able to contact her. Also I very much want to go through with the no contact rule for at least 30 days but we have most of the same friends and the activities that I like to do she is always there so if I want to do the things that I usually do to have fun she will be there every day. Another thing is that we were supposed to go to our home town for a week to see our families ( we are from the same place) and I came down but she decided to stay, she couldn’t stay at her place so she stayed with two of our mutual guy friends. I consider these two of my best friends so I have never felt a threat but the idea is starting to make more sense in my head and it hurts a lot. One more thing, I had broken all of the rules in step 1 like most of us probably did, and I am doing better now, but she said the one thing that killed me. She told me she didn’t love me anymore, now at this point it had only been about 5 days since the break up so I’m pretty sure she was just saying it to get me to stop harassing her, but the fact that she could even say that and not take it back, it’s really hurting and I don’t know how to deal with it. Any advise would be great thank you all so much and good luck with all of your own issues as well.
You were together for two years so she now feels free. But in time it will get to her that she doesn’t have you anymore and might lose you. Just do the no contact. Work on yourself, do the things you love. Don’t overthink stuff, try not to go on her social media sites. Get a good friends support, that are positive but still will ground you.
In time you will contact her again and I am sure she will feel diferently 
Thank you, that definetly made me feel better but when we go back to school I’m just nervous because all of my friends are also her friends and they are all part of an organization which she is an executive member of, this is where I spent most of my time but now I must avoid this organization which leaves me alone and bored back at school. With that and the fact that she seems so happy I’m scared that the NC will be too hard.
Are there any other groups in school you could be a part of maybe? Well I guess you will see her inevitably. I think the best is to just say hi and keep walking. Don’t ignore but also don’t have a conversation. If she starts talking to you just don’t talk about anything personal and cut it short, like you have stuff to do. I know… but we got to be strong and remember this might be what we need to do to get them back. Let that, and you having your time for yourself, be your motivation. You were with her for two years. This can be the last month you will be single for a long long time
Yeah thats true the only thing is that I wanted to go to the gym for 30 days which I know wouldn’t do much but I really want to wow her the next time she sees me. I guess what I’m asking is do you think it would be a good idea to just take a break from that organization, it would mean seeing my friends less but it would probably have a better long term outcome.
Yes I do. But get something else to do in the meantime. Going to the gym is a good one. Are you skinny? Do you want to lose weight? Tell me about it. I am not an expert but I can tell you if you can visibly change or not in a month
I want to lose weight it was something my ex and I tried to do together but never really got into it
Well when we broke up I lost weight instantly almost. For me the most difficult thing is gaining weight really x) How much do you want to lose? If you really work hard, you can lose 10 pounds I think. I know a lot of people lose way more after a break up in a month. But that is because they almost stop eating. I slept 3 hours a day and ate only enough to survive for 15 days basically. Don’t do that. But do go more for fruit, water, whole wheat bread or no bread at all, go work out, do lots of cardio. Really watch what you eat. Eat only white meat or just fish and watch your portions.
I am saying this because I would love to gain 5kg (10pounds) in a month if I could. But it’s so difficult. And with all this I have even less apetite. But I have been going to the gym for a month and I can tell you you can already see a huge difference in my arms, stomach and even legs. But that’s because I am really thin
Yeah it has actually been about a week and a half and I already lost about 8 pounds and I know that isn’t the best way to lose it but it’s a start I’m definetly going to try hard to diet and exercise for the next month I really want her to see a new me when the time comes